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Friday, April 22, 2016

MAKING CHANGES

Today is the day I sign my lease, this weekend I will be moving over all of the things I want to take myself, and Monday the movers will be here bright and early.


Once again I am closing one door and opening another. Another phase in this crazy life.


Changes can be scary, even when they are something we really want. 

Leaving the comfort of the known for a life in the unknown always produces a bit of anxiety. 

For a while now I have felt like I have been on the outside looking in. Wanting so much to have a place of my own again.


Now the door has finally opened and the barriers have come down. 

There is a lot for me to do over the next couple of months, but even though I am feeling a little anxious, I am also excited about the changes.


No matter where we are in this journey of life, if we are willing to make changes and to move forward I think we will be constantly surprised by what lies ahead. 

Find more of the Rewriting Life series here.

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Monday, April 18, 2016

AND THE WINNER IS.........

The winner is me of course.

With three minutes to go in the online auction, it looked like I was going to steal it. 




Then suddenly my winning bid was more than doubled.

Ha!!! Who did they think they were dealing with? Did they really think I wouldn't have covered myself?



The next bid I left popped up and I was in the lead. I waited patiently with pounding heart and sweaty palms for the next three minutes to tick by. Who knew three minutes could be so long.

Yes, it was mine.

chintz settee English country cottage sofa loveseat

Tomorrow I will be picking it up. I've bribed my sister, with a lunch out, to go and help me lift it into her SUV.

Oh, the winning bid was $275. Much less than I would have had to pay for a new love seat. 

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Saturday, April 16, 2016

I'M NOT AS YOUNG AS I USED TO BE...

and neither is my laptop, my printer, or anything else I own that can possibly age out of this life.

I called my 91 year old mother yesterday and said, "I am not as young as I used to be". Her response was, "HA!!! You're not. Welcome to my world." I personally thought that was insensitive. I expected something more along the line of, "Of course you are, Laura. You look exactly the same as you did 40 years ago, and I'm sure you must feel just as young". I think there should be an unwritten rule that mothers should not be so honest. 

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As you know, I am packing to move, and my move has been moved up. I will be signing the lease on Friday. Next weekend will be spent moving all of the things that I want to heft and carry myself, and the the movers will be coming on the Monday morning after that to get my furniture and boxes. (My stuff that is in North Carolina in storage will be dealt with next month. I am trying to avoid thinking about it.)

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My body is not happy. I slept eight hours last night without moving. I don't think I have done that since I was a teenager. Of course, when I was a teenager I would wake up refreshed and ready to jump out of bed. This morning my body rebelled big time from that lack of movement. I think I must have slept with my neck in a corkscrew because I had a headache that didn't want to quit. 

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And speaking of aging things, why is it that electronics know when they are reaching their third birthday and begin to cough and gasp? My computer and printer decided to break up last week. 

Suddenly their relationship came to a shrieking halt. They literally turned their backs on each other, and it was heartbreaking. I had to use my counseling skills, big time, for four hours to save the relationship, but I'm worried it might not last. I think they should be paying me for my skills, but I'm afraid I am the one who will shortly be forking over the big bucks.

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Keep your fingers and toes crossed for me. I am bidding on a chintz settee (don't you love that word) on a local online auction. It will be perfect for the English country cottage decor I have planned for my new cozy little living room. Since I can't give other bidders the evil eye like I can in person, I am trying to do it virtually. Not sure how well that works. 

I'll share full photos of it if I win.

The weather is perfect here, so I am going to throw open the windows and get busy.

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend.

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Monday, April 11, 2016

WE ARE TOUGH

Life can be tough, but I know that we can be tougher.


I love this quote. Every time I think that life is just getting too tough to handle, I think of this and I know I can deal with whatever is thrown at me. 

So I am going to leave you with just this quote today because I have an extremely long TO DO list today. 
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P.S. Thank you all so much for your sweet words on my impending move. I am excited and a little scared all at the same time. So much to do in the next few weeks, and of course there is still my business to take care of. I will get it all done though, because I know I am tough.
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Friday, April 8, 2016

MOVING DAY APPROACHES

After a two year wait my name has finally come up, and I will be moving into a retirement apartment in about three weeks. 


I just got the call this past week and didn't think it would happen this quickly once they called.

I'm excited, but I also realize how much there is to do. I am of course making a list. (Is there a limit on how long a list can be?)


I think "retirement" might not be exactly accurate. Of course there are people living in the apartments who are retired, but I don't see myself exactly in that category. I am over the age of 62, but I see myself as having a very busy and long life ahead. 

I am looking forward to finally having my own home again, a place where I can shut the door behind me and know I only have myself to answer to, a place that I can decorate how I want, a place where I feel safe and secure. 


I am also looking forward to going to North Carolina next month, cleaning out my storage unit, dividing some things between my daughters, keeping what I want and need, donating and tossing other things, and putting that part of my life behind me. 

The future looks bright. 

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Monday, April 4, 2016

WHEN CHILDHOOD IS FADING AWAY

The last few days I have felt as if my childhood is fading away. For the first 9 1/2 years of my life I lived here in Lexington next door to the Fleming family. 


Mr. Fleming was like my second father. As my own father was away much of the time travelling for his job, Mr. Fleming was there to step in. He was one of the kindest men I have ever known. 

When I was nine, Mr. Fleming was killed in a terrible car accident. I remember feeling as if I would never understand why. I remember my grandmother soothing me and saying that when God goes into the garden he always picks the the most beautiful flower. 


Our families had been so close. We were living the American dream of the 1950's. We had a neighborhood filled with children who played together and our two families were like one family.

Six months after the accident my father received a big promotion and we moved to Canada. Our families remained close, even after the move. We visited them in Kentucky and they visited us in Canada. 


Saturday We got the terrible news that Ike, who was a year older than me, had passed away from a brain tumor. Like his father, Ike was always kind to me. As a child he was the first boy I ever danced with and as an adult he helped me a couple of times in his role as an attorney. He would never charge me, as he still felt like I was family. 

I felt a thread of my childhood fade away.


Yesterday I drove by our old childhood homes, and as I approached, I saw that the tree in front of my old house, the tree my father planted more than sixty years ago, had been uprooted the day before in a wind storm.

It was yet another piece of my childhood fading away.

My thoughts were troubled, and I wondered why this was happening.

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Then I remembered what my grandmother had told me so many years ago, and I knew that I had to change my thoughts to positive ones. 

Ike is now celebrating with his mother and father in Heaven. 

Maybe the family who lives in my old home will replace that old tree with a new tree, a tree to bring them memories. 

Today I will be spending the day attending Ike's funeral. It will be my turn to comfort his brother, sister, wife and children. It will be a time of sadness, but it will also be a time for remembering. 

Ike's wife told my sister on Saturday that Ike spent his last hours talking about his childhood with my family. I am glad that his memories were as happy as mine. 

Our childhoods may fade away, but the memories are always with us and it is the present where we must live and be happy.

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Wednesday, March 30, 2016

SPRING BREAK

I have been having a nice little stay at home spring break. My younger sister Tricia was visiting me from Arizona and we had a week of laughter and catching up. 



The wind was really whipping our hair around that day and we were laughing about how straight hers is and how curly whirly mine is.

I think this is one of the most gorgeous springs we have had in several years. The weather has been perfect for the blossoms and flowers and everything has pretty much come out at the same time.

The weeping cherries at the cemetery were spectacular.



The Bradford pears are gorgeous.



Found these dainty purple beauties along the edge of a country lane.



Tricia's daughter, who is finishing up her residency in veterinarian ophthalmology surgery at the University of Tennessee was able to drive up with her boyfriend to spend Easter Sunday with us. They will be heading out to Colorado Springs to begin their new life at the end of the summer.



It was a great week, but Tricia headed home yesterday and left me looking and feeling like I might need a nap. I'm not as young as I used to be.



Hope everyone is having a beautiful spring.


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Monday, March 21, 2016

FRIENDS

Seems like every day I am running, running, running. Although it often feels like I am running in place. 

This morning as I was tackling my TO DO list I thought about friends and what in the world would we do without them.

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When I ran across this photo it made me stop, take a deep breath, smile, and think about all of you who have become my friends.

We are all different, and yet we have so much in common. 

The best part is we add color to each other's worlds.

I am so happy to have each and every one of you in my colorful crazy world.

Happy Monday, sweet friends.

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Wednesday, March 16, 2016

LEARNING TO FORGIVE

Learning to forgive someone, especially when they aren't sorry, can be one of the hardest things in the world. I know it is for me.


As we go through life, we are wronged by so many people in so many ways. Some of those people are people we have trusted and loved. Some of the wrongs are slight, while others are major.

No matter the relationship of the person, or the degree of the slight, how do we learn to forgive them when they just don't feel sorry for what they have done, and when we want to hold on to the hurt. 


Doing it for ourselves is the most important part of the forgiveness process. Because who we are hurting is us, not them. 

When someone tells me I "HAVE" to forgive them, I immediately get my back up and don't want to do it. I am a bit stubborn that way. What I have learned to realize is that no, I don't have to, instead I can choose to. I can choose to love myself enough to let it go.

That is what I am working on right now. I am working on being kind to myself through forgiveness of others. 

How about you? Do you have a hard time forgiving?

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Friday, March 11, 2016

SPRING-ING

I have been struck down with a fever this week. Spring fever to be exact. Balmy days, singing birds, and blossoming trees and flowers have been calling my name.

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There is something about seeing daffodils blooming that lifts me out of whatever winter funk I have been in.

Their cheery yellow faces tell me that yes, there may be cool weather ahead (after all it isn't officially spring yet), but we will not go back to those dark days of January and February.

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There is a spring in my step as I am finding new blossoms every day.

They are literally bursting out everywhere.

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What could be better than looking up at a spring sky through a tree bursting with pink blossoms.

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Even Sammy, the usually shy neighborhood feral cat, came out to tell me how glad he is that spring is here.


Yep, I've definitely got it bad. I'm calling this new way of life spring-ing.

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