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Monday, May 4, 2015


I had a very early appointment this morning that took much longer than I had planned. As I prepared to exit the building my mind was taken up with all of the annoyances of the day and how this appointment had put me very far behind. 

Then I stepped outside and breathed in the amazing day. The air was clear, the sun was shining, and the temperature was perfect. I just stopped where I was, closed my eyes, and breathed it all in. I realized that I needed to let the morning go. It was past and I was looking forward to what the rest of the wonderful day was going to bring me. 

It made me realize how often we get stuck in the past. How we let the past cloud our days. How we need to let it go and look to the future.

So that is the main thing on my agenda today. Yes, there is a long list needing my attention, but I am going to tackle it with a fresh outlook while I inhale and exhale. 

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Sunday, May 3, 2015

small houses

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Saturday, May 2, 2015


It's that time of year again. fast horses, beautiful hats, the singing of my old Kentucky home, and lots of celebrations. Yes, today is the run for the roses, also known as the Kentucky Derby and no derby party is complete without the official drink, the mint julep. Those of us who are native Kentuckians, were practically weaned on mint juleps, but for those of you who have never had the privilege, I am including a recipe. let me say, with all due respect, that if you have never had one of these jewels, I would recommend that you sip slowly on one for several hours. 

mint julep recipe

4 fresh mint sprigs
2 1/2 oz bourbon whiskey
1 tsp powdered sugar
2 tsp water

Muddle mint leaves, powdered sugar, and water in a collins glass. Fill the glass with shaved or crushed ice and add bourbon. Top with more ice and garnish with a mint sprig. Serve with a straw.

I confess, that I no longer am able to drink alcohol, but that doesn't mean I want to forego the tradition, so I just cook off the alcohol in a delicious recipe.

{adapted from Cooking and Booking}

1 cup butter
2 cups sugar
1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1/2 teaspoon mint extract
4 eggs
2 3/4 cups flour
3 teaspoons baking powder
1 teaspoon salt
1 cup milk
1/2 cup bourbon (or whiskey)
1/2 cup Creme de Menthe

3 cups sifted powdered sugar
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon mint extract
2 teaspoons vanilla extract
1 stick unsalted butter, melted


Preheat the oven to 350º F, and grease or line 30 cupcake cups.
Combine salt, baking powder, and 1 3/4 cups of the flour. Beat butter, sugar, eggs, and extracts in a large mixing bowl until creamy. Gradually beat in the flour mixture. Add the milk and liquors to the batter, then the rest of the flour (1 cup). Mix as little as possible, just until the batter comes together. Divide the batter evenly among the cupcake cups. Bake for 25-30 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in the center of a cupcake comes out clean. Let cool.

Combine the powdered sugar, salt, extracts and melted butter and beat until creamy. Gradually add milk until the texture is right for piping. When the cupcakes are completely cool, pipe or spread the icing on top. Garnish with cake sparkles or sprinkles, a straw (trimmed to size), and mint leaves.

I'm thinking this is not the low calorie version, but hey, after you run around the track a few times you're bound to burn them off.  (thanks to my cousin AnneBrinton for finding this)

Well, i'm off to find my hat and read the racing form so you all have a nice day.

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Friday, May 1, 2015


My mom informed me, this morning, that I was kind of bossy. Me? Bossy? Okay, when you tell me that I am the person that is going to have to help you with your move I may get just a wee bit bossy. Mom is on the move again and will be moving into a different independent living apartment that doesn't have quite as much closet space. As I am also going to be downsizing into a small apartment, I decided we both need a refresher course in downsizing. 

some of us like to pretend like we are a maid. others of us don't

I've been doing a lot of reading on downsizing and decluttering. (It's quite possible that all the time that I spend reading is keeping me from actually having to do it)  I have been taking notes and now I may actually be ready to get to work. 

There are some pretty basic points on downsizing.

  • The first thing you need to do is be prepared to let things go. I think this can be the hardest step for a lot of us. We love our stuff. We collected it for a reason. It has meaning. But, we also know that we can't keep all of it. 
  • Walk around your home and write down things you definitely want to get rid of. Make plans to decide what you will throw away, donate, or sell and then organize into three separate containers as you downsize.
  • Work on one space at a time. Choose a closet, drawer, cabinet or corner. This is easier than trying to do an entire room in one sitting.
  • Immediately throw away items bagged for the trash. I recommend taking the donation items right away to somewhere like Goodwill and putting the items you want to sell in the garage or basement if you have one. Out of sight means out of mind and you are less likely to pull them out and put them back in your house.
So Mom just called me up all excited. She cleaned out a corner that she has wanted to do for months. "Good job, Mom." "So what have you done," she asked. "Ummmm, I wrote a blog post about downsizing." "Doesn't count," she said. Moms are just so tough.

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Thursday, April 30, 2015


Do you ever feel yourself holding back from something you believe in or something you want to do because you fear that you will be judged? I think many of us have found ourselves doing this. I know I have, because it can be scary to move out of your comfort zone

Staying in your comfort zone can be like wrapping yourself up in an old familiar blanket and snuggling down on your living room couch, but just like a caterpillar who undergoes metamorphosis, we too may never turn into a beautiful butterfly without leaving that cozy little nest we have created. 

There are many reasons that we may put our full potential on the shelf or tuck it out of sight into a drawer. You may be doing something the same way that you always have and are afraid to change it. Maybe someone has told you that your dreams are unrealistic. Possibly there is some negative self talk going on: I can't do it, I don't have the time, I'm too overwhelmed, I'm too old.

Breaking out of your comfort zone can definitely feel overwhelming but it doesn't have to be. Take small steps. Do something different each day. Go to a different grocery store, drive a different route to the mall, eat at a new restaurant. 

Have you been wanting to write a book but are afraid of rejection (that would be me)? I think the majority of writers will tell you they have been rejected, but if a book seems too much why not start with a short story or an ebook. Have you wanted to start practicing yoga, learn how to knit, take up swimming, or go back to college? Are you afraid to go to a class because the others may be better at it or more knowledgeable than you? They were beginners once too, and that is why they are called classes. They are there to help you. 

What I have learned as I have grown older is that life is a lot shorter than we think it is. I know that I don't want to leave this world with a bunch of regrets. So today I will take a small step out of my comfort zone. I will start writing down ideas for an ebook. 

What would you like to do that is out of your comfort zone and what is holding you back?

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Wednesday, April 29, 2015



Do you ever look around and think how did that person become so famous? Do they have a famous parent who has helped to boost them? Do they know the right people? Do they have tons of money to help them advertise themselves? Do they work harder than everyone else? Are they just lucky? 


Being famous is not always what it is cracked up to be. Maybe it is not the luckiest thing in the world. Maybe, it is okay to just look at the world and say. I am just me and know that being just me is okay. In fact, being just me is more than okay, it is perfect. 


Is it okay to not be the biggest blogger in the world? Of course it is. If you are writing about and sharing the things that are important to you, that is all that matters. We live in such a competitive world and sometimes we get caught up in that competitiveness, and it may make us forget who we are and why we are blogging. 

wildflowers going to seed

I became a counselor because I love helping people and my blog is an extension of that. If I touch even one person's life I feel blessed. If you write your blog to talk about your family, show your crafting skills, or share your decorating and it is what makes you happy then you are a successful blogger. It doesn't matter if one person or one million people read your blog. What matters is that you are successful just by being you and by taking that giant leap of putting yourself out there. 

I can say with all honesty that I love having you as friends and I love reading your blogs. 

So look at yourself in the mirror today and say "I am an absolute rock star. I may not be famous, I am just me, but what could be more perfect than that".

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Monday, April 27, 2015


It's Monday morning. It's five a.m. I'm lying here unable to sleep. Did I already say that it is Monday? Monday is Inspiration on a Monday day. It is the day that I inspire my readers. As I lie here I am feeling like a fraud, because I know that I am not living with intention. I am holding myself back. I am allowing others to determine my path. I am allowing my fears to guide me.

WHEW!!! What a relief to get that out in the open. I know that many more of you are living with that same guilt, the knowing that you are not living the life that you want, the realization that you are holding yourself back from living the life that you want. I want you to know that you are not alone. Most of us struggle with this and we are all here to support each other. 

So how do we stop holding ourselves back? How do we start to live with intention? 

1) The first thing we need to do is ask ourselves what we really want. That seems simple enough, but I think that many people are pretty vague about it. They will answer with I want love, financial security, peace in my life; but these answers aren't specific. (Don't feel bad, I have been pretty vague too) What we need to do is sit down and write out specifically what we want. Make a list. I am doing that today and I am going to carry that list with me in my wallet so I can pull it out in moments of silence.

2) Once we have made our list we need to release our intentions to God or the universe. For me this is the hardest part. I want to micromanage every aspect of my intentions. I want to control when things are going to happen, but we have to allow things to happen when they are meant to. We have to know that there is a purpose for each of us and that when we have set our intentions, what we want will happen at the perfect time.

3) The third thing we must do is remind ourselves not to allow others to control what we want or allow negative thoughts to take over. Instead, in moments of doubt (and believe me these things will rear their ugly heads) we need to center ourselves in the moment, knowing that when we have made our intentions known the things we really want will come to us. 

When I feel doubt creeping back into my mind I know that I need to sit in silence. For me that means either meditating or praying. Sometimes those times of silence are twenty minutes, but sometimes they are just one minute. Many people believe that you need an extended amount of time to center your thoughts in silence, but often a moment is all you need. The important thing is to give yourself that time to tune out the chaos around you, to quiet your mind, and to bring yourself back into intention. I have been known to do it when standing in the grocery holding onto the cart. 

For me, the term "no holds barred" means being completely unrestrained and it describes my take on living with intention. 

Are you ready to release whatever restraints are keeping you from living your life of intention? I hope so because you deserve the life you want.

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