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Friday, February 21, 2020

I had a post all planned out for today, but the weather yesterday was definitely not conducive to taking photographs. 

Old man winter raised his ugly head in Atlanta. Temperatures were in the 30s and I awoke to the sound of rain and freezing rain hitting my windows.

I hope all the flowers don't freeze

Wednesday was a lovely day of meeting in person and having breakfast with Cassandra, who is a longtime reader of my blog. Cassandra used to write a blog, but like many bloggers let it go when life got in the way.

We immediately started talking and didn't stop for two hours. It was lovely. We are now more than just blogging friends, we are in person friends. She will hopefully be moving here in a couple of years and I look forward to seeing more of her. 

Yesterday, Brenda at Cozy Little House wrote about her diagnosis of Asperger's and how the diagnosis has changed her life. You can read about that here.

If you have been reading my blog for awhile you know that I am a retired mental health counselor, who focused on women's issues.

Reading Brenda's post reminded me of how important it is for women to embrace their uniqueness. As we get older I think this becomes much easier for us to do, but I also know that as women we are often put in a box that has been dictated by society. 

That box can put so many artificial constraints on us that we often lose our true selves. We compare ourselves to the so called perfect woman, but there isn't one perfect woman. We are all perfect because we are unique.

Life becomes so much simpler when we discover our uniqueness, because we are no longer constrained by artificial norms.  

So yesterday, I sat listening to the rain and thinking about the things that make me unique. I learned long ago that there are plenty of people who don't like me for one reason or another, but it's okay. It is most important that I am true to myself and like who I am. 

I will always be outspoken. I will always fight for the underdog. I love my family. I am a little bit quirky. While everyone else is straightening their hair I just let mine be its natural curly self. I love dangly earrings. I am a chatty introvert who loves other people , but who is equally happy being by myself. If you make me really mad, I have a temper. The list goes on, but you get the idea.

Love yourself. Embrace your uniqueness. Don't let anyone else tell you who you should be. 

P.S. The sun is supposed to be out all weekend, so hopefully on Monday I will have photographed my new thrifted finds and can share them, along with a couple of those things that I am using in my home. 


  1. I think it takes a while to 'find ourselves'--especially if we are people pleasers and want to make others happy by assuming the role(s) they think fit us. Wonderful post, Laura. xo Diana

  2. This is such a great post for me right now....I'll go back and read it again! Since I had a 'big' birthday, I've been thinking more about how I I spend my time, etc! I want to make sure I'm doing what I want to do and need to do. I cleaned out my closet yesterday of all the clothes that I don't like. Nice clothes....that still fit! heehee! But I want to wear only what makes me feel good. Thanks for this post! Enjoy your day! It's windy and cold here today too!

  3. Love this post. I'm a 72 year old retired RN with custody of 11 year old grandson. I volunteer at his school. This week in 25 degree weather I helped PTO with fund raiser during middle school outside recess. I wore my warm, fake-fur lined hat. Grandson was ridiculed for his grandma's attire! Teacher supervising recess heard of it, went inside and got her similar hat. We had a good laugh. Clothing is superficial but people are judged by ridiculous things.

  4. It's as if you knew I needed this today. I've been doing the blog comparison thing lately.

    After speaking to other ladies it seems I'm not the only. I took comfort in that fact.

    I'm my toughest critic yet I know I'm talented. Make sense?

    Spot on with this post, Laura. Hope you have a wonderful weekend!


  5. You have helped me over the years with your friendship when I have struggled. I thank you for that and for the link. Have a great weekend!

  6. Such a nice post Laura. I think in this world we live of such harsh realities we all need to embrace each other and love that we are all different and all matter in this big thing called life. I love blogging and it has given me a chance to meet and become friends with so many that I normally in life outside of blogging would have ever gotten to know. I love that we all are different in our styles and what we blog about but we can embrace and encourage each other. Happy Friday Laura. Have a wonderful weekend.

  7. Laura, I like you.:):) It takes awhile to learn to love ourselves, I think. I just try to be the best me I can be. If someone doesn't like me ,I probably would feel badly but then what can one do? So just let that go. Let's try to be happy. Blessings, xoxo, Susie
    p.s. hope the flowers didn't freeze.

  8. I have found aging to be freeing in that way. I'm much more accepting of myself, and what others think of me isn't nearly as important as it once was. It just takes us awhile to gain that wisdom!


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