Yesterday was a day of rest for me. I had nothing planned and nowhere I needed to go so I took the day to relax and contemplate some things that are going on in my life.
I meditated, read, and ate foods that didn't require much preparation.
Something had been bothering me for several days. If you read my blog you know that I am taking water aerobics classes three times a week. I really enjoy it. I feel healthier in mind and body and I have started to make some new friends.
Making new friends can be difficult as we age, but the class is made up of primarily older women so it's been a nice place to talk to new people.
However, with that being said I am having a problem with one of the women. She seemed very nice and already had other friends in the class. She told me about a national organization for women over 50 called The Transition Network (TNN), and suggested I might want to join. I researched it and I think it is definitely something I am interested in. She also loaned me a book by one of her favorite authors.
The problem arose this last week when I noticed that she was saying negative things to me, about me, and saying them in front of other women. I noticed that other women in the room were giving us strange looks. I found myself trying to defend myself when I had nothing to defend myself for.
I also noticed that she made some veiled bigoted comments, which I have no tolerance for.
I found it all upsetting, so yesterday on my day of rest, as I meditated and cleared my mind I thought about what I should do. At first I thought about going elsewhere to do water aerobics, but then I thought that was ridiculous. I am very comfortable where I am going. Why should I disrupt my life that way.
I am not in middle school and I have no room in my life for mean girls, so what I plan to do is try to distance myself from her and if she says something mean or cutting to me I will deflect her and move on to something else.
Life is too short to allow others to stress us out. I know for me, a sense of peace and tranquility is more important than ever.