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Monday, August 19, 2019

NO MORE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

I have reached a point in my life where I know I need at least one day a week to rest and relax, and I know that I have no more time or patience for toxic relationships. 

Yesterday was a day of rest for me. I had nothing planned and nowhere I needed to go so I took the day to relax and contemplate some things that are going on in my life. 


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I meditated, read, and ate foods that didn't require much preparation. 

Something had been bothering me for several days. If you read my blog you know that I am taking water aerobics classes three times a week. I really enjoy it. I feel healthier in mind and body and I have started to make some new friends. 



Making new friends can be difficult as we age, but the class is made up of primarily older women so it's been a nice place to talk to new people. 

However, with that being said I am having a problem with one of the women. She seemed very nice and already had other friends in the class. She told me about a national organization for women over 50 called The Transition Network (TNN), and suggested I might want to join. I researched it and I think it is definitely something I am interested in. She also loaned me a book by one of her favorite authors.



The problem arose this last week when I noticed that she was saying negative things to me, about me, and saying them in front of other women. I noticed that other women in the room were giving us strange looks. I found myself trying to defend myself when I had nothing to defend myself for. 

I also noticed that she made some veiled bigoted comments, which I have no tolerance for. 



I found it all upsetting, so yesterday on my day of rest, as I meditated and cleared my mind I thought about what I should do. At first I thought about going elsewhere to do water aerobics, but then I thought that was ridiculous. I am very comfortable where I am going. Why should I disrupt my life that way.



I am not in middle school and I have no room in my life for mean girls, so what I plan to do is try to distance myself from her and if she says something mean or cutting to me I will deflect her and move on to something else. 

Life is too short to allow others to stress us out. I know for me, a sense of peace and tranquility is more important than ever. 


NO MORE TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS

Monday, August 19, 2019