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Monday, September 29, 2014


Women Speak

This morning when my mom and I were having our daily phone conversation she was lamenting the terrible times that we live in. I said that I think we are certainly more aware of the terrible things that happen because of our increased access to world events, the media's propensity to focus on every negative thing that happens, and then to spit it out to us ad nauseum. But I wonder, are we statistically more likely to experience rape, murder, kidnapping, and all other forms of mayhem than we were in our younger years? I thought I would do just a little research.

According to the US Department of Justice  the homicide rate declined sharply from 9.3 homicides per 100,000 in 1992 to 4.8 homicides per 100,000 in 2010. 

What about sexual assault? Well the rate of sexual assault has decreased by more than half since 1993 according to the USD of J.

In fact, the US crime rate is at its lowest point in decades. "The last time the crime rate for serious crime – murder, rape, robbery, assault – fell to (current) levels, gasoline cost 29 cents a gallon and the average income for a working American was $5,807. That was 1963." See article here.

I thought this week we would discuss your feelings of vulnerability. Are you more afraid than you were in the past? If you are, what do you think contributes to your fear? Does reading the above statistics change your feelings of vulnerability? Why or why not? And, because this is a women's forum, I am wondering how you think being a woman influences how you feel. 

So put on your jammies and slippers, grab a cup of tea or coffee and let's chat.

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tip toe if you must

A Snippet of Inspiration

Each Monday is devoted to a snippet of inspiration because a little rain falls in everyone's life. 

So often we feel like we must take a gigantic leap in order to make a change in our lives, but in reality that is usually not the case.

Don't let an inability to take a huge leap hold you back. Don't allow lack of money, the desires of others, or the fear of failure keep you from moving forward. Keep tip toeing if that is what it takes. I have confidence in you.

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P.S. Women Speak will be posted this evening. Don't forget to get your jammies and slippers on and join in.
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Saturday, September 27, 2014

just one time

Just one time I would like to purchase something and actually have it work right. 

You may have noticed that I was AWOL yesterday. That is because my cell phone died and I had to get a new one. I really wanted an Iphone so that I could Facetime with my grandchildren. Apple conveniently just released the Iphone 6 and Sprint was having a very sweet promotion for unlimited everything for $50 a month. I had even saved up enough money to pay the down payment on the phone. YIPPEE!!

The first time I bought a smart phone I didn't go with an Iphone because I didn't like it's size. I love the size of this one. It's larger and thinner. PERFECT! 

Well, I thought everything was perfect until I tried to Facetime with my grandkids last night. It wouldn't connect. REALLY???

So I tried to setup my Apple account. None of the info that I set up when I bought the phone yesterday, which took several hours by the way because everyone else in the free world wanted one too, worked. FRUSTRATION!!!

I had an auction so thought I could just get it straightened out this morning. Called Apple. The person I spoke with was very helpful, but she said the info didn't work for her either. I would have to go back to the store and get it straightened out. GRRRRR!!!!

She did tell me how to set up my Apple ID which is different from my Apple account and I hope that fixed the Facetime problem. Seems I have to be logged in to my ID in order to use it. I'll have to wait until the kids are available to try it again. SAD FACE!!!!

So now I will have to go back to the store. I think I will wait until Monday for that little ordeal. It seems to be a problem that nothing works right when you get it. I think this problem was with the sales person. In the meantime I will have to figure out all of the bells and whistles. Hopefully that will be fun. 

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P.S. I was not compensated by Apple in any way. This is just my own opinion.
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Thursday, September 25, 2014

seeing through your heart


Last night I was talking to my younger sister, who lives in Arizona. We were discussing a situation that I was having difficulty with and she said, "you need to see it with your heart, instead of your mind". 

Yes, I know as a counselor, that we often have to get our inspiration from others. I work on seeing things through the eyes of my heart rather than with my mind, but it isn't always easy. 

Often there are thoughts and feelings that are blocking us. That is when we have to take a good look at the block and work our way through it. It is important to be gentle with yourself while you are working through the block. Take time to process your feelings. How does it feel to open your heart? How are your feelings different when you see something through your heart rather than through your mind? 

Learning to look at things with your heart takes time and practice, but just like most exercises it is worth the effort. 

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Wednesday, September 24, 2014

a picnic in Gratz Park

Last month when the family was here one of the things we did was have a picnic lunch and self guided walking tour of Gratz Park.

Tessa was so excited that she decided to climb up the front steps of the mayor's house and knock on his door. 

I can't say that I blame her. I would really like to take a peak inside, too. 

The Gratz Park Historic District is a beautiful area in downtown Lexington, Kentucky comprised of a charming city park, the old Lexington Library building, and several large historical homes. 

It was a perfect summer day and the flowers were all at their peak.

When I went back to finish my undergraduate degree and then my graduate degree I worked at an historical home, the Bodley-Bullock House, in Gratz Park. The home, which was built in 1814 was headquarters for both Union and Confederate forces during the occupation of the city. These days the Junior League runs the home and rents it out for weddings, parties, and political events. It was my job to oversee the house during those events. 

I loved the job. The house and all of the antiques are gorgeous and I loved meeting all of the people (plus I got lots of delicious catered food)

There were so many wonderful doors to knock on,

which at the end of the walk made for a very thirsty girl. "Hey guys, what's a girl gotta do to get a drink around her

Enjoy your day,
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Monday, September 22, 2014

our women friends

Women Speak

In my last post, a Snippet of Inspiration, I touched on the importance of friends.  The friendships we have with other women are very special. From the time we are little girls we forge female friendships. These friendships may last an hour at the playground, or they may last a lifetime. There are good friendships and there are bad friendships. Hopefully, as we age, we learn how to discern between the two. I have had both kinds during my lifetime, but I no longer allow toxic relationships to remain a part of my life. I let those so called friends go, wishing them only the best.

The good friendships are the ones we hold dear to our hearts. Although, I have lost some of my closest friends over the years, I remember the good times we had. The sharing of both the good and the bad. The special memories.The love that will remain in my heart forever.

I have a friend who is my opposite. She drives a new sixty thousand dollar car. I drive a fifteen year old car that is barely holding together. She loves to shop and wears lots of flashy jewelry. I have to be dragged into the mall kicking and screaming. She loves steak. I haven't eaten red meat in sixteen years. Recently when I was talking about how I juice every morning she looked at me, rolled her eyes and said, "what's next, going braless and wearing Birkenstocks?".  I immediately replied with, "that's a great idea!". Then we both burst out laughing. That is what friends are. We make each other laugh. We listen when no one else will. We may be different, but we respect those differences. We hold each other up.

Friends can come from any where and at any time. They may be in our own families or they may be someone we meet through a shared interest. They may be near by or far away. Many of my friends are right here. Sharing their lives with me through their blogs. Holding me up the way so many of my friends have done in the past.

Today I would love to hear about your best friends. One you have now, or maybe one from your past. 

So grab a cup of coffee or tea, and let's chat.

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A Snippet of Inspiration

Each Monday is devoted to a snippet of inspiration because a little rain falls in everyone's life.

We all have them. We don't know where they are going to come from or how long they will remain with us. Some are with us for maybe a day, while others last a lifetime. But, they all have one thing in common

Friends. Thank goodness for each and every one of them.

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P.S. I'll be back later today with Women Speak, where we will talk more about friends.
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Saturday, September 20, 2014

serious brain fog

After going to the new doctor on Monday and having at least fifty gallons of blood taken out of my body, the verdict was that all the tests were normal. That is a good thing except still no answer for why I have Peripheral Neuropathy and why it suddenly flared up again. 

So they upped my medication last night. For me that means major brain fog for awhile. I feel like I have a hangover and that I am completely befuddled. I also feel like I just want to sleep. YAWN!!

There is a reason I am telling you this. It's because if I post something that makes absolutely no sense you will know why. (Okay, I know that I often make no sense even when they haven't upped my med.) 

On the up side, it is a wonderful day here. Warm temps and the sun has been making a valiant effort to peak out from behind the clouds. The leaves are starting to change and I am looking forward to getting out and getting some fall photos when the trees really get their colors going. 

My mom just called to say she is on her way over to play cards with me because she knows she can beat me in my diminished capacity. There is just something so wrong with that. 

I better go stick my head under some cold water. 

Hope you have a wonderful weekend.

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Friday, September 19, 2014

roll out those lazy hazy crazy days..........

of summer.... Yes, I know that summer is over in a couple of days, but you know what they say about "it ain't over til the fat lady sings". Maybe not the best of sayings, but it was the only one I could come up with on short notice. The short notice being that I put off writing my post until the last minute. 

Today I am reminiscing about summer. Summer seemed to fly by, but I still have some great memories.

Baskets of fresh fruit. YUM!!!

Beautiful flowers

and fields of more beautiful flowers

Exploring my state

Revisiting my past

and planning my future. A future where I hope to spend a whole lot more time with this crazy threesome.

What was your favorite memory from this summer?

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Thursday, September 18, 2014

do what you love


How often do you do the things you love? Do you give yourself the time to do the things that make you happy?

I don't know about you, but I get very wrapped up in day to day living. Doing my daily tasks. Working. Taking care of other people. I often feel tired and irritable at the end of the day because I haven't taken the time to do the things I love. So I have to remind myself...

I think I will get off of this computer for awhile, get a book to read, and head outside for awhile to enjoy this lovely weather. It is definitely something I love to do. 

How about you? What is something you love to do that you need to do more often?

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Wednesday, September 17, 2014

soft light

There is just something about light that slips through window panes casting its soft shadows on an unsuspecting wall.

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 Light that sifts through the fog, revealing the bare branches of a stark winter day.

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Light that captures a dancing feather, surrounding it with the orbs of angels.

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Light that reflects serenely off the water, beckoning to us to dip our toes and linger.

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Light that blows in with a soft breeze, whispering its name.

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Light that paints a new season, continuing the cycle of life.

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The soft light is seeping back in, speaking to my soul, easing my tensions. It is calling my name.

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P.S. I've just added a new board to my Pinterest account called Soft Light. If you love soft light, I would love to have you visit and follow along.
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Tuesday, September 16, 2014

where did that darn thing go?

I meant to have Women Speak today.

I planned to have Women Speak today.

I even wrote Women Speak last night. 

Tessa seems to think the whole thing is a little boring
It was good. I was excited about our conversation. I hit publish. I hit view blog. My post wasn't there. I looked in my saved posts. My post wasn't there. 

I felt a little panicky. I mean what will people think?

So I started to search and I called its name. Please come out from wherever you are.

Tessa is even out knocking on doors for me
Behind the chair? Nope. In the closet? Ummm, I don't think I could find anything in that mess. In the refrigerator? No, but those leftovers sure look good. Under the bed? Nooooo, but major head rush from leaning over. Maybe I should just sit down and eat those leftovers while I recover. 

In the meantime Tessa is still out looking. That girl doesn't give up.
While eating the leftovers I realized that I had to come clean. I mean you all know me pretty well and you know that I would make a terrible criminal. If I stole a piece of gum I would be confessing before the flavor was gone. 

So here's the truth. I didn't write Women Speak last night. I went to a new doctor and they took 50 gallons (okay, just a slight exaggeration) of blood out of me, trying to figure out what is causing my peripheral neuropathy, and I was feeling too tired. I got in my jammies, read a book, and was asleep at nine o'clock. 

Women Speak will be back next week. In the meantime, if you have any topics you would like to talk about please email me and let me know. And of course, as always, have a wonderful good day.

Now where did I put my keys.................

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P.S. I'm beginning to think this whole thing was just an excuse to throw in some cute Tessa photos :)
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