Friday, August 14, 2015

A milieu is a person's social environment, and in the blogging world that environment is complicated. 

As bloggers, we set out in this world for many different reasons. Some of us may have started blogging as a type of personal diary. Maybe we wanted to share the lives of our families. 

If we are a DIYer or love to decorate our homes we may have wanted to share our wonderful skills with the world. When I began my blog many moons ago it was to promote my Etsy shop.

Like the "real world" we change and evolve personally and so does the world of blogging. I know that for me, my reasons for blogging have changed. Of course I would still love for buyers to find my Etsy shop through my blog, but the focus for me is now different. 

I am a person who believes that changing and evolving is a good thing, but I also know that many people are resistant to change. They wrap themselves up in a cocoon, as if the world around them is an old familiar bathrobe that they just don't want to part with, and if that works for those people then I am certainly okay with it. 

What bothers me is the negativity I am seeing from many people who don't want the overall world of blogging to change, but the fact is that blogging has changed from what it was five years ago. It is a way for people to earn a living through sponsors and ads. 

It is a way to educate. It is a way to grow and evolve. It is a way to promote causes one believes in, and yes, if you still want your blog to be a personal diary then it can still be that. 

When we have been blogging for awhile we have more than likely established a community within the blogging world, and I think that sometimes we are so afraid of alienating our community we stifle ourselves. 

That seems very unhealthy to me. I also know that the internet has created a sense of anonymity unlike what we have ever seen before, and through that anonymity people believe that it is okay to spout out whatever venom they want. I am a firm believer in free speech, but I do find it troubling when I read some very "not nice" comments on blogs. 

I'm never quite sure what the point is. Does it make the person who is commenting somehow feel better? Does it make them feel superior in some sense? Do they think that everyone should adhere to what they believe is right for the blogging world? 

Last night a friend told me that she had found and read a couple of my blog posts. She said my writing was good, but she didn't understand the point of blogging. Why would anyone waste their time reading and commenting on blogs, she asked. It obviously isn't her thing, and that is perfectly okay. We are all different. That is what makes the world go round. 

There is a place for all of us in this complicated milieu, and our place may ebb and flow. For me, my hope is that my blog will always continue to change and grow. It is just the kind of person that I am. I went back to college and grad school in my mid forties because I wanted to learn new things, and I wanted to follow some old dreams. 

Now, through this wonderful blogging world I am able to use what I learned in new ways, and I am able to earn some much needed money along the way. 

The blogging world is not perfect. No world is, but I believe there is a place for everyone who wants to be a part of it. If a blog changes and it no longer suits you there are plenty more out there in a niche that you love. I love all of my readers, but I know that some have left for one reason or another. I have stopped reading some blogs for the same reason. 

Life is short so I intend to open my arms wide and enjoy all that the blogging world has to offer. I am going to catch up with old friends and hopefully find new ones. Most importantly I am going to try and be supportive and positive with my comments, and if a blog just simply does not work for me I am going to gently move on. 

Seems pretty simple to me. What are your thoughts?

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  1. What a fascinating post. My experience of blogging has been entirely positive. I have never encountered these negative comments (famous last words), but then again, I am a garden blogger, and I have yet to meet a nasty gardener (oh I am really tempting fate now). I understand that some bloggers might become stifled by their community - perhaps unwittingly so - but I have also watched blogs change very gently and develop as years pass. I love the blogging community. Here's to many more years of this diverse and complex milieu!

  2. Blogging is very complicated and everyone has a different reason for doing it. For me it started off as a place to store my photos, but has since became a full time job and income. I think we all have to do what works for us, and what we feel is right. Carry on and do what you do best :)

  3. Blogging has changed and I've found some blogs I originally followed are no longer blogging but I've found new blogs to follow. I think we all need to keep an open mind. Change happens and as you said, if you don't like it, go elsewhere but be kind.

  4. For myself I loath change, but nothing stands still for me to vegetate in my comfort zone. I moderate comments, and over 7 years I don't remember ever having to kill a vicious comment.

    I use blogging deliberately as a constant learning curve. The blogs I read I treat as a flower bed, deadheading and filling spaces with fresh plants.

    Why would we waste time blogging? Because we think our time is wasted on other things. Different strokes.

  5. Blogging has changed a great deal since I started over seven years ago. I don't find that at all threatening. I think it just opens up even more reading possibilities. I know I like and read a wide variety of blogs and that my personal tastes can change over time. I also know that some of my readers have moved on - for whatever reason - and that's fine too.

    I think my blog is basically the same - a daily journal, but I DO know that I got clearer and clearer about that as time went on. I went through a period where I was trying to be a blogger that I, in essence, would never be. Fortunately, that was short lived and I roll on, doing my thing daily.

    Thank goodness for variety and the ability to change and not be threatened by the prospect of change. Wonderful post, Laura!

    As far as negative comments, I've had a few over the years and I've learned to hit delete and move on!


  6. I know you are right about this subject of change. It is far healthier to be able to transition and accept new circumstances instead of constantly lamenting the change.

    As far as blogging goes, I was just thinking this morning how thankful I was that the blogging community I'm in is so gracious. I have deleted a couple of blogs simply because the posts, while well written, seemed to draw so many virulent comments both for and against. Too many labels by both sides were cast. Your advice to gently leave is a good one.

    And your pink and purple flowers are gentle also.

  7. Such a well written and thought provoking post. I don't have the years of experience of interacting in blog land - I'm still navigating the waters.....I really enjoy hearing the perspective and experiences of those who have - like you Laura.

  8. Thanks for sharing such a thoughtful post. I really enjoyed reading it. I haven't had a lot of experience with negative comments but your experience with your "friend" sounds similar to one I had years ago. Pre-blog years. I used to make homemade party invitations for my sons birthdays. and I remember another mother seeing one and saying, "who has time for that?" Sort of putting me down. But I noticed that she was always someone who got her nails done religiously. Something I could never find time for when the kids were young. (Heck, even now.) I think ultimately our lives are an expression of our values....we prioritize what matters to us. Your friend's insensitive remark makes me question whether she's happy with how she's prioritized her time.


  9. Well said! I started my blog about seven years ago and I've seen many changes. I think that blogging and what you blog is a matter of personal taste and yes, it is always good to re-evaluate and either stay the same or make changes...the choice is yours. Bloggers are a unique bunch and I'm proud to be part of such a unique circle of wonderful people that I call friends. Thank you for sharing.


  10. i have found some true friends through blogging and many 'associates'. i've had to drop back my posting and visiting drastically and miss the daily interaction with many. alas, life gets in the way, doesn't it?

  11. I agree with you. I have stopped reading some blogs and continued with others. All for different reasons. I think blogging is fun but I will admit that there are some days when it feels more like an obligation. Some days, I step back from it because I don't want to ever have my blog come across that way. It's always better when it's fresh off the hip and not overly thought out. I hate to read mean comments as well. Luckily I've had very few. Of the ones that I've had, they're from strangers that don't even have a blog themselves. I bet if they had a blog themselves they wouldn't comment like that!

  12. I have enjoyed reading this post several times! This is my third year of blogging, And prior to my blogs conception I read a few blogs. Compared to many seasoned bloggers I am relatively new, and I have found this journey interesting and rewarding. I am always searching for new ideas, self improvement, gardening, family, decorating, women's issues etc... So am continuing to develop and interact with a variety of bloggers that have such passion and knowledge on their particular talent/talents. I am in agreement with all if a particular blog or writing style is not agreeable to what we are looking for, move on. Kindness and gracious manners applies in the blogging community too!
    Have a lovely Sunday

  13. I like the little blogging community I belong to, and so far, everyone (for the most part) has been kind and gracious. I personally don't like ads and sponsored posts, but I know some bloggers choose to have them because they want or need that income - and that's fine. I would never belabor those who choose to do so. And because blogging changes and our own tastes change, there's been blogs that I have quietly unfollowed and others I have just started following.

  14. I'm so glad that you wrote this post Laura, it's starting a conversation that is needed, and it's intriguing to read other's thoughts on it. For me change is wonderful enlightening, and needed to keep creating interesting content, I'm like you in that way.

    I understand those who don't like change, and allow them their choice, as I hope they allow me mine..

    I love how you put it, "Most importantly I am going to try and be supportive and positive with my comments, and if a blog just simply does not work for me I am going to gently move on. "

    That is so gracious and wonderful.


  15. I don't think you're talking about me, but I don't think I really complained about blogging on my blog. I think it was more reminiscing about the way it was. I live in the past, so it makes sense that I would yearn for it, even if it's in the recent past lol

    4 or 5 years ago when I left Blogland, it was so different! People had started to advertise, but it wasn't in full force yet. When I came back it was so drastic, I wasn't sure what to do and I didn't recognize a lot of my old friend's blogs.I've settled in now though.

    Advertising... I've been going back and forth about whether or not I want to do it. We'll see ;)



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