Wednesday, May 13, 2015

Family, we all have one in some form or another, and with family comes a certain number of obligations. 

Help me, Give me, Take me, Show me!!!

For the most part we love our families and we want to help in every way that we can, but sometimes obligations are inconvenient. That is when the problems arise. This is especially true if you have been the go to person. You are somehow made to feel guilty for not doing your familial duty even if there is another family member who can help, but just doesn't. 

Obligation is a very weighty word that implies a requirement, a duty, and that weight can wear you down. It can very easily foster resentment. I know, because I have been feeling that weight and resentment. 

So instead of looking at something as an obligation, I decided that I would instead look at it as a choice. I have the ability to make a choice for or against something. I can take what I consider to be either the moral high road or the moral low road. It is up to me. 

I choose the moral high road because it gives me a sense of satisfaction and empowerment. I feel good about what I am doing and suddenly I no longer feel like the victim. The weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. 

How do you handle family "obligations"?

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  1. And I think when you take the moral high road, it leads to good karma!

  2. That is a great way to look at it. It's all in how you perceive it isn't it?

  3. I have a written list of my priorities and family is at the top of that list. If I ever begin to feel stressed over something I am doing for a family member, I simply remind myself that they are my priority. We are by nature selfish human beings and our thought life can go into automatic mode without our realizing it and we begin to throw pity parties for ourselves. If that happens I have to stop and remind myself that I have chosen family to be a priority in life and I my feelings quickly change. It's an example of how our thinking changes our feelings...a powerful tool we have with which to create our lives.

  4. I tend to help out whenever possible. but I've learned to say no, if I need to...

  5. It's funny how we go back and forth inside over things but in the end choosing the right perspective always works : ) Still, sometimes it is a struggle.

  6. By nature I am a caregiver and find myself in that role often in life. Now I have an aging Mother to care for and I do it with love, but it is an obligation. At times I wish there was someone to share the burden, but there is only me. I also help my daughter with the Grands and I love doing that. I know that my day will come to be 'cared' for and I hope that I have lived the example of family love to my children.



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