Thursday, January 16, 2014

transformation on a thursday.....facing your fears

We all have fears. I have terrible vertigo. Just the thought of high places makes me start to feel dizzy. I'm also deathly afraid of rodents. A little mouse makes me sick to my stomach. These are phobias, and I am not sure why I have them. I do work to try and overcome them, but some of them, like that rodent thing, I am perfectly happy to live with.

I also have other everyday fears. Things that I don't want to do because I am afraid of rejection, or ridicule, or failure, or standing out, or change. It is these everyday fears that hold me back, that keep me from being the person I really want to be.

I have often wondered where these fears of mine originated. At what point in my life did a person or persons start to make me feel less than. So I have worked on my fears and I have worked to find their source. 

In many respects I know that I am a product of my time of growing up. As a girl child I was often treated as less than. Women and girls for the most part were relegated to second class citizenship. We were often not afforded the same opportunities as our male counterparts. That fortunately has changed for the better, but I know that I must recognize and own my upbringing in order to overcome it.

I think about my fear of heights. Does it tie in with my feelings of rejection? Just the thought of reaching a height in my life brings about those feelings of anxiety and I wonder if it is an unconscious desire to not step "out of my place", because taking that big step would hurtle me into space and then drop me over the precipice. 

So I work on facing and overcoming my fears. I love this quote. 

And I try to do just that each day. Yesterday I wrote an email, that I had been putting off writing because I was afraid of rejection. I may still get rejected, but I know that if I hadn't done it I would not feel satisfied with myself and I also know that rejection is a part of life and doesn't have to be a negative reflection of me. 

As I travel down this road of life, I know that facing my fears is a good thing. It is a thing that will free me to live a life I love.

Maybe you can relate. Do you have things that you really want to do, but fear is holding you back? I hope you will face them and show them that you will not be ruled by fear.



  1. I love this post so much . I want to write a book as well and I too put jt off from fear. WE should take your advice and do one thing every day that scares us. Awesome. just loved this post.

  2. I know this will sound corny, but it's really true. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. We've all heard that before, but it you stop and really think about that nothing else will make you fearful!

  3. And you always feel so much better after facing what you were afraid of. Sometimes you wonder why you didn't do it sooner. The things we do to ourselves :-)

  4. Great post. In fact I was just thinking this morning that I need to make a list of things to do this year. An "annual" bucket list of sorts.

  5. I applaud your courage in facing your fears. As for that rejection thing, as a writer, I could wallpaper my office with all of the rejection letters I've received through the years, but I never take it personally. Instead, I use rejection as a motivator to press on, to find that open door.

    As for heights, I can deal with heights as long as I feel protected behind a fence or a window or wall, but you'll never find me washing skyscraper windows, in order to face my fear of heights. And I'll never face down a rodent, nor touch it. Ugh! If that makes me a coward, so be it.

    Have a lovely Thursday, Laura.

  6. I, too, fear open heights! But I drive in the mountains and I'm fine...
    We all have fears, but I believe the Lord can help us overcome them all.
    Good post, Laura.

  7. I step out of my comfort zone pretty often and the more I do...the easier it is. My problem is trying to think things through, as I think they will play out. They don't usually so it's a waste of time to 'worry' about it or give it much thought. As sensitive women....maybe we think too much. Sweet hugs....we don't hug too much though!

  8. I tend to stay in my 'routine' so as not to have an upset. I need to find the courage to do things that I am dreading. Great post!

  9. Laura... I have a terrible fear of heights as well. I am so bad, I can't even take a down escalator. Don't know whether I will ever be able to face that fear. Let me if you challenge yourself with heights. It may give me some courage.

  10. OK, I relate with the rodent thing, I can remember as a little girl hearing a mouse in the closet and my coming up and chasing it with a broom to get rid of it. I never had to face one myself and I think that is where mine came from. Nowadays they still creep me out so bad, I've spent many a time on top of a table. I have stepped out of my comfort zone many times as a adult on other big issues though.

  11. Good for you, Laura! I am so glad that you took the leap and sent that email. Facing our fears is hard, but wow, what freedom there is on the other side!

  12. Wow, such a beautiful and inspiring post filled with wonderful advice.
    Thanks so much for sharing.

  13. What a great post, Laura. I think a big part of it is just really identifying that we ARE fearful-sometimes finding the root of that fear is impossible. I think, then, we just let the past go, accept it for what it is and move forward as best we can towards inner freedom. A truly GOOD post here today, Laura! xo Diana

  14. I am afraid of heights too and it is hard to overcome but I try to keep things in perspective. I freak out with spiders also but when I see one I have to seek it out and make sure it is gone or it will keep me up all night or make me look for the thing all day long, LOL!


  15. You are so brave to tackle your fears, and this post is a good reminder that it is fear that holds us back. I am so glad that you have been doing so well...cheers to you!!!

  16. As inspiring as you are, Laura, I’m still ladder challenged and will not investigate things that go bump in the night. Happy Sunday.

  17. Thank you for sharing your heart, Laura. I can relate to fear holding me back and I have many regrets from a childhood where I always felt small and under-valued. I really appreciate your honesty and encouragement. I know we have to make our own dreams happen but when one lacks confidence, it's hard. May 2014 be a wonderful year for all of us who purposefully face our fears and move forward.
    Lynn at Cottage and Creek


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