As a counselor, I was often called upon to do career counseling. I remember a young woman coming to me and saying that she knew what she wanted to do, open her own bakery, but that she didn't know how to go about it, and that her family was telling her she needed to find a job that had a guaranteed income. She wanted to know if I could help her determine if she had the aptitude to be a baker. So, I administered a test that tells what your job aptitude is. When the test results came back, they said "owning a bakery shop". I frankly was quite shocked. I had never had results be so specific. The universe was really talking to her, but she was still resistant. It was as if she wanted me to tell her not to follow her dream, not to do what her heart was singing for her to do. She left my office dejected that day and didn't come back. I often wonder what happened to her. I felt like I had somehow failed her, but realized that she needed to follow her own bliss. I couldn't make her decision for her.
So how do we know which road to follow.
We most often follow the road that supports us financially, because we live in a material world and we all know that we have to eat, have a roof over our heads.....etc. But, what if we are short changing ourselves. What if we listen to what our hearts are telling us. What if we pay attention to what gives us bliss.
When I was in graduate school, I took the same test that I later administered to that young woman. It told me that I was suited to be in a helping profession such as counseling. I felt relief that I was headed in the right direction, but then I faced the reality of the profession I had chosen. I didn't like the constraints of a nine to five job in an office, or the boundaries that were set up by the professional boards I worked under. I knew I had made a mistake and didn't know what to do about it, so I quit. I was floundering. I became a real estate broker and made even more money than I did as a counselor, but I still knew I was not following my heart, and when the bottom fell out of the real estate market I started selling vintage and antiques because I love them and it is a joy for me to deal in them.
BUT!!! (there is always a but, isn't there) I knew there was more that my heart was telling me to do and I knew I needed to believe more in my intuition.
That's when I decided to pull together my counseling along with my desire to help others find inspiration in their own lives. It has led to changes in my blog. What started out as a blog to promote my vintage and antiques business has turned into so much more for me. Do I hope that someday it will bring me an income that will help support me? You bet, I do, because I have to eat, but I love doing this so much I will continue to do it for free if I have to. It is what makes my heart sing and if even one person finds inspiration somewhere along the line, while reading my blog, then I am happy and feel fulfilled.
So what is it that makes your heart sing? Are you short changing yourself somehow? I would love to hear what it is, because maybe if you write it down here, it will give you the impetus to make a start on your own dream.
Whew!!! This was a long post for me.