Saturday, August 18, 2012

life's changes

As summer begins to slip away and autumn approaches, I feel a tad nostalgic.

It seems like only yesterday that my daughters looked like this. Sharing wonderful times together. The three of us.

Now my oldest daughter is the mother of three. 

and she is sharing those special moments with her children.

My younger daughter is a loving aunt.

Time marches on. My mother recently turned 88 and she is starting to tire more easily. 

So today, my sister, my mother, and I had a bit of a family pow wow. We went and ate lunch at one of our favorite restaurants and talked about some changes we need to make. 

My mom wants to move into a retirement apartment next summer and I think it is a great idea. She will have all her meals taken care of, there are lots of activities (she is still a very social person), and it will take away a lot of stress for her. My sister and her husband may also move into the same complex, which would be nice for all of them. 

As for me, I would like to move on down the road to Atlanta to be near my children and grandchildren.

So there are a lot of things to accomplish over the next year. I have decided to go ahead and get my other knee replaced in the next few months. We will have to sort through all of my mom's possessions and decide what few things she will want to take to her new apartment, what my sisters and brother  and myself may want to keep, and what to discard. It is a monumental task.

Yes there are changes in the air. Life is moving forward, and I plan to embrace it.



  1. Your mother is beautiful. You're so blessed that she is involved in this decision. It's always better when they realize their limitations and agree to make needed changes. Good luck with your surgery.

  2. Your mom is so adorable - what a smile! Lots of exciting changes in store for you.

  3. Those are lots of BIG changes, Laura. Kind of scary changes in a way. You see your Mom moving into the golden phase of her life, you see her home being sold and her possessions sorted through. It really takes its toll as I well know. You will do it though and after the sadness there is almost a sense of relief. You know that she will be watched after and you won't feel so stressed. It would be nice if you could move closer to your kids- xo Diana

  4. Just discovered your blog. I love all things vintage and look forward to following along.

    This post made me all teary-eyed, for some reason. I guess because my parents are up in age and I see how time marches on for all of us, ready or not.

  5. May everything turns out just right for all of you darling ladies. New life changes are never easy, but it seems like you all know exactly the direction your life needs to be taken. I love your girls old pictures and the now of the me, a mother daughter and an aunt daughter, lol.. God bless you all. Thank you for sharing.

  6. I think about these things often, about my Mom. I wish I wasn't the kind of person to dwell on the future but I am. I'm sad to hear about your knee replacement, that sounds painful. God grant you strength for all that lies ahead!

  7. These sound like exciting changes! So glad that your knee surgery turned out so positively that you are going to have the other one done! What freedom that will bring! Your mother looks so precious - a beautiful, sweet face and smile! I think she would love having the social activities at a retirement complex without all the stress of home-ownership and upkeep. Would be great to have relatives there too! Moving closer to your kids and grandbabies is such a wonderful idea! The times I spend with my little grandbabies are true blessings and I wouldn't miss a one of them! Great things you have planned and I wish you all the luck and best wishes in the world! Hugs, Leena

  8. hugs and good thoughts for you, your mom and sister. so wonderful that you have each other to plan and share these changes which are sure to be hard but less so when done together.

  9. Life is about change. You grow, and learn, outgrow some things or they outgrow us and you accept change and adapt. Your plans sound like you are moving on with life as it should be.

  10. New to your blog. I found you by looking for the recipe for the Eggplant and Tomato Casserole for the Vegetarian Epicure! I can not put my hands on my copy of the book and hoped someone had posted it!
    I understand what you are going through with your mom. My Dad is 95 and still lives alone. He has a heart condition and just recently allowed help to come in to take care of him. And he just stopped driving!
    It is good that you have a support system and it sounds like everyone is on the same page. I too have an older sister and brother and we all want whatever is best for Dad.
    Again thank you for posting that recipe!

  11. There are all these lovely quotes about change being so great, and inevitable. What they don't mention is the worry, the stress, the fear that change can bring.

    But change is good, it's needed, and to get the jump on change before it's necessary is taking charge, and making change work for you. Instead of the other way around. Congrats on doing that.

    Jen @ Muddy Boot Dreams

  12. Your family is lovely! I am going through this exact same thing right now. I am moving my Mom from Texas to GA and will have to go through all her possessions and decide what will come here and what will be given away or discarded. Such a task!! In the end to have my Mom nearer it will be all worth it. Lots of changes in the air and lots of good things to come! Hugs, Linda

  13. Your mother looks wonderful and much younger than 88! I hope all the new transitions will go smoothly and happily for everyone!

  14. Dear Laura!!! Yes, big changes!!! Your family is beautiful... I am so glad you are all alive and in good health. My husbands parents are 86 and also very active and independent like your mother. It is great that she is making that decision and it will be easier on all of you. We worry so much about our parents. My mom is 68 and acts like she is a baby. She needs a nanny, lol!
    I am so glad your mom will have your sister and husband in the same complex! You will know she is taken care of.
    ALso so happy you will move to Atlanta and be closer to you granddaughters and daughters.
    I am also having a big year. My plan is to set up my business and make it profitable. God bless us!!!

  15. Best of luck with all of these life changes!

  16. There seems to be a lot of changes about to happen in the next year for a lot of people. We are set on moving out of state. More than likely we will move to NC, but we are also considering GA. It would definitely be north of GA and that's all I know. :) We're trying to get everyone in the family to live closer as well. My grandma is 83 and she wants to leave Florida as well. Good thing because I wouldn't go anywhere without her! Your mom looks so pretty and happy...she's lucky to have such a caring family. It breaks my heart to talk to elderly people and find out they're sad.
    Hope you've had a wonderful Sunday!

  17. Your mother is a cutie! It's nice that y'all are all sticking together to make sure everything gets worked out the best way. My mom is 79. So far, she is healthy enough to continue living on her own with her husband. I dread the day that her health takes a turn for the worse though. My husband's parents are not nearly as healthy as mine and it makes me more thankful for my own parents good health. If you do decide to move to Atlanta, then look me up! I live north of Atlanta in Cumming.

  18. Good luck with all the challenges ahead. What a relief that your mom made the decision to move into the retirement community. After my mom moved into a retirement complex, she told me she had only one regret --- that she hadn't moved there 5 years sooner! She loved having places to go and things to do and neighbors to visit.

  19. Time does march on, and your attitude about it all is inspiring. You are blessed with a beautiful family!


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