WHEW!!! What a relief to get that out in the open. I know that many more of you are living with that same guilt, the knowing that you are not living the life that you want, the realization that you are holding yourself back from living the life that you want. I want you to know that you are not alone. Most of us struggle with this and we are all here to support each other.
So how do we stop holding ourselves back? How do we start to live with intention?
1) The first thing we need to do is ask ourselves what we really want. That seems simple enough, but I think that many people are pretty vague about it. They will answer with I want love, financial security, peace in my life; but these answers aren't specific. (Don't feel bad, I have been pretty vague too) What we need to do is sit down and write out specifically what we want. Make a list. I am doing that today and I am going to carry that list with me in my wallet so I can pull it out in moments of silence.
2) Once we have made our list we need to release our intentions to God or the universe. For me this is the hardest part. I want to micromanage every aspect of my intentions. I want to control when things are going to happen, but we have to allow things to happen when they are meant to. We have to know that there is a purpose for each of us and that when we have set our intentions, what we want will happen at the perfect time.
3) The third thing we must do is remind ourselves not to allow others to control what we want or allow negative thoughts to take over. Instead, in moments of doubt (and believe me these things will rear their ugly heads) we need to center ourselves in the moment, knowing that when we have made our intentions known the things we really want will come to us.
When I feel doubt creeping back into my mind I know that I need to sit in silence. For me that means either meditating or praying. Sometimes those times of silence are twenty minutes, but sometimes they are just one minute. Many people believe that you need an extended amount of time to center your thoughts in silence, but often a moment is all you need. The important thing is to give yourself that time to tune out the chaos around you, to quiet your mind, and to bring yourself back into intention. I have been known to do it when standing in the grocery holding onto the cart.
For me, the term "no holds barred" means being completely unrestrained and it describes my take on living with intention.
Are you ready to release whatever restraints are keeping you from living your life of intention? I hope so because you deserve the life you want.