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Monday, April 27, 2015

NO HOLDS BARRED: THREE STEPS TO LIVING WITH INTENTION

It's Monday morning. It's five a.m. I'm lying here unable to sleep. Did I already say that it is Monday? Monday is Inspiration on a Monday day. It is the day that I inspire my readers. As I lie here I am feeling like a fraud, because I know that I am not living with intention. I am holding myself back. I am allowing others to determine my path. I am allowing my fears to guide me.

WHEW!!! What a relief to get that out in the open. I know that many more of you are living with that same guilt, the knowing that you are not living the life that you want, the realization that you are holding yourself back from living the life that you want. I want you to know that you are not alone. Most of us struggle with this and we are all here to support each other. 



So how do we stop holding ourselves back? How do we start to live with intention? 

1) The first thing we need to do is ask ourselves what we really want. That seems simple enough, but I think that many people are pretty vague about it. They will answer with I want love, financial security, peace in my life; but these answers aren't specific. (Don't feel bad, I have been pretty vague too) What we need to do is sit down and write out specifically what we want. Make a list. I am doing that today and I am going to carry that list with me in my wallet so I can pull it out in moments of silence.

2) Once we have made our list we need to release our intentions to God or the universe. For me this is the hardest part. I want to micromanage every aspect of my intentions. I want to control when things are going to happen, but we have to allow things to happen when they are meant to. We have to know that there is a purpose for each of us and that when we have set our intentions, what we want will happen at the perfect time.

3) The third thing we must do is remind ourselves not to allow others to control what we want or allow negative thoughts to take over. Instead, in moments of doubt (and believe me these things will rear their ugly heads) we need to center ourselves in the moment, knowing that when we have made our intentions known the things we really want will come to us. 

When I feel doubt creeping back into my mind I know that I need to sit in silence. For me that means either meditating or praying. Sometimes those times of silence are twenty minutes, but sometimes they are just one minute. Many people believe that you need an extended amount of time to center your thoughts in silence, but often a moment is all you need. The important thing is to give yourself that time to tune out the chaos around you, to quiet your mind, and to bring yourself back into intention. I have been known to do it when standing in the grocery holding onto the cart. 

For me, the term "no holds barred" means being completely unrestrained and it describes my take on living with intention. 

Are you ready to release whatever restraints are keeping you from living your life of intention? I hope so because you deserve the life you want.

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36 comments:

  1. I had to laugh when you said what do you really want because the first thing that came to my mind was "I want the dam* grass to stop growing for awhile! " :) Well I don't think i'll get my way : )

    Great post, Laura...every bit of it true for most of us I am sure!

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    1. That is so funny, Deb. We can't wait for the grass to start growing in the spring , and then we complain when it does . I guess that's I we need to really know what it is that we want . :-)

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  2. Very inspiring post today, dear Laura. Have a great week.

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    1. Thank you, Katie. Hope you have a great week too.

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  3. i find myself struggling with #1 these days.

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    1. I think many of us struggle with number one, but I also think that the list changes. Our wants and needs to change.

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  4. At 63, I can't go after the career I want, but I can plan for the retirement I want, which MIGHT include going after a part time career path of my dreams. So really, we are never too old to reach for the stars, even if we have to adjust at what height those stars are.

    You can do this. And thanks for yes, an inspiring post. (my oldest dog kept me up between 2-5 am. I feel your pain.)

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    1. I definitely believe that we are never too old to go after what we want. I hope that you are able to achieve whatever it is you want, Gwen. Hope your dog let you get some sleep. :-)

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  5. Great post, Laura! I am feeling inspired to work on all three! Will admit, # 1 is calling my name!

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    1. I think #1 is calling a lot of our names, Nancy :)

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  6. just as I wanted to go to sleep I hear Chocolat singing out in the garden. Usually interpreted by me as, send reinforcements we've been invaded by MONSTERS! And I loathe disturbing neighbours who are trying in turn to sleep. Followed by weird dreams.
    You have made something inspirational for us from your lying awake.

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    1. That is so funny. There always seems to be something to disturb our sleep. Glad my insomnia was helpful today :)

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  7. Seems like no one slept last night, but I agree with Diana that you have created a inspirational post out of your sleeplessness. At first I thought, health, happiness..but I am going to dive in a little deeper. Maybe after a nap.

    Jen

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  8. I definitely needed this today. I've been struggling with the same thing. It's hard trying to figure out where you're going and what you're going to do and if it'll truly make you happy and lead you where you'd like to go. Such an inspirational piece.

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    1. Thank you, Jazmine. It really does help to just sit down and write out what you want.

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  9. I really want to get back to doing crafts projects. But seems I'm on the computer so much the day just gets eaten up.
    Brenda

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    1. I think I spend way to much time on the computer too, Brenda, but I am learning to just close it up and take time to do some things I want. I don't get everything done that I want to, but i'm working on it. Hope you can take time to do some crafts.

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  10. Hi Laura...I really find that writing down what I want to accomplish helps tremendously. There's something very therapeutic about putting things into writing. Susan

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    1. I find it to be therapeutic too, Susan. It seems to make my goals seem more real to me and more of a commitment. :)

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  11. Great reminders, Laura. I have a hard time with letting go and not micro-managing everything. I'm also working on the negative self-talk.

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    1. It is so important for all of us to stop the negative self talk, Melanie. It is definitely a habit worth changing.

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  12. It seems number 1 is the most challenging for most, and I'm no exception. Even when I figure out what I want, it invariably changes in no time. So what's a girl to do? Just admit, perhaps, that I want it all and hope for the best ;).

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    1. I always wonder what "all" is and where is it hiding? I think that yes, there are definitely changes in what we want over time. We grow and our needs change.

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  13. WOW! I needed that today. Since we moved I feel like I have been existing. I have had the intention to get cracking, but have yet to...just the kick in the behind I need.

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  14. The older I get, it seems like my wants get smaller in number. I can't decide if it's because I've given up or just realized that some of the wants were unattainable to start with. At the moment, my wants are simple. I just want to get my house cleaned top to bottom! After being a lazy slug all winter, I'm finding it hard to get myself motivated to do more than just vacuum the middle. Maybe I need to invite some friends over and that will get me in gear!

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    1. Maybe our wants get smaller when we are feeling content. I have to confess that I never really feel motivated to clean my house. It is when I wish I had a magic wand. :)

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  15. Fabulous Laura...these are key and especially letting go of our intentions and trusting all will work as it should.

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  16. What a good read-thanks for the inspiration!

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  17. I tend to over analyze why I can't. I have let my MS takeover getting things started and finished. It gets tiring of everything I do takes longer. Mentally my brain has all these ideas and plans to get things done.

    My leg slows me down. Instead of saying it slowing me down so what. I get angry and stp.

    I'm working hard on this issue

    Cindy

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    1. I know how hard your illness is, Cynthia. I know that you have physical limitations and fatigue is one of them. I also know from living with my father who had MS that anger is also normal. I hope that you will take care of yourself, Illness slows us down and makes it difficult to reach some of our dreams in the way that we want, but I think that is where #2 really comes in. When we release our intentions to God or the universe, it can be amazing how things happen that we never expected. xo

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  18. What an inspiring post. Number three is so important - not to let negative thoughts take over!

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    1. Absolutely. That is something many of us struggle with.

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