F Simple and Serene Living: AUTHOR YOUR OWN LIFE 09 10
Thursday, March 26, 2015

AUTHOR YOUR OWN LIFE

I am the author of my life. You are the author of your life. We are all the authors of our own lives. We have so much power over the way our lives unfold.


As a child I was taught to be obedient, to look up to authority figures, and to believe that they knew what was best for me. When I became a grownup, I somehow stayed on that path. When I veered off of it, I received nothing but negative feedback from people. So I would try to get back on the path they demanded of me. I found I was never happy, because I was allowing them to be the authors of my life. It caused me to become resentful and angry.


We all have people in our lives who think they know what is best for us. They want to tell us what we are doing wrong in our lives and how we can fix "our mistakes". These people may be well intentioned, but they are not the experts on our lives. We are the expert on our lives, and if we have given that power away, we need to take it back. This does not mean that we can't learn from others, because we must always be open to learning, just as we are open to teaching. 


Stepping away from the path that others have carved out for you can be scary, but in order to find true happiness we have to follow our own path. It is never too late to change your direction, to take that fork in the road that will lead to the destination you want. 

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7 comments:

  1. Amen, Laura! Two of the bravest things I've ever done where I had well-intentioned loved ones telling me "don't do it" were also two of the happiest moments of my life. One was back in 2000 when I traveled solo to England to visit a friend. The other was in 2012 when I resigned from my job. Were both those times scary? Yes. Worth it? An even bigger yes. Like you said, it's one thing to listen to other people and their advice - and perhaps even learn from them - but ultimately, you have to do what's best for you and follow your intuition and your heart.

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    1. Mel...this is amazing. I never knew you took this trip...traveling alone is very brave. And leaving your job, I remember when you did that. I never knew it was so liberating. Bravo!

      Jane x

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  2. Circumstances dictate much of why we are where we are, doing what we do. But every day we have decisions to make about how we will spend our lives. And they can alter the path we take. I pray a lot.....and I know you do too. I pray every day that God will lead me. Good post my friend. Sweet hugs, Diane

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  3. Laura...this is a great post (as always...they almost make me dig deep down and think). Unlike you, I grew up without much guidance. I had six siblings and parents that worked day and night to make ends meet. A child of the 70's, it wasn't like Ozzie and Harriet, nor like the "perfect" families everyone tries to emulate now. That said...I floundered for a long time, especially from my teens through my twenties. I made poor choices and didn't trust many people. The voice I heard WAS my own, but it was timid and frightened.

    I've learned a lot as I grown older...I seek out information and guidance from every source possible. I use my instinct and try to tune out the negative voices in my head. We do our best with what we have, don't we?

    Jane x

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  4. Wonderful post, Laura :) Many times it is not even real physical people holding us back but their voices in our heads from years ago. I am trying to observe the mind lately and determine where half of this monkey-mind chattering is coming from. It's coming from long ago parents, church teaching, classmates, spouse etc. Very old radio stations! :)

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  5. Wonderful post, Laura :) Many times it is not even real physical people holding us back but their voices in our heads from years ago. I am trying to observe the mind lately and determine where half of this monkey-mind chattering is coming from. It's coming from long ago parents, church teaching, classmates, spouse etc. Very old radio stations! :)

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  6. Great post, Laura! I try to get that message across to my girls as much as I can. Have a great weekend!

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