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Thursday, February 5, 2015

WOMEN: MORE THAN JUST A PRETTY ROOM

I am a baby boomer. A child of the fifties, a teenager of the sixties, and a young woman of the seventies. My generation of women worked hard for equality for women. I was openly discriminated against in the workplace and sexually harassed. Much has changed since then, but there is still so much that hasn't. 


vintage christening gown, wedding photo, old window frame

It disturbs me that advertisers still target women for how pretty they are, their mommy skills, their ability to keep a clean house, and how pretty those houses are. Don't get me wrong. I loved being a mommy. I love a clean house, although I have never liked to clean it, and I love decorating. However, there is so much more to women than these things. 

Why are we as women still being pitted against each other, and why do we buy into it on our blogs? We fight to show that we are the best "idea of a women " that society has to offer.



I want to know more about you as a woman. How are you coping with aging? What are you reading? How do you see your place in your family, your community, and society at large changing? What are your goals, immediate and long term? What are you doing to stay healthy? Is there a place for aging women in the workforce, on social media? Do you feel like you are becoming irrelevant? (We talked about that here last week) What are you doing to insure that you will have enough money to live on? How are your ideas of society changing? Do you feel like you are being left behind by a quickly changing world? What is your relationship with your children, your grandchildren? Are you caretaking elderly parents? How has your relationship with your siblings changed as you have made your own lives? Do you suffer from depression, anxiety , or other mental health issues? 


old books, antique print

We are women! We are strong! So why are we being made to believe that we are only a pretty room. Why are we so often made to feel guilty for doing the same things as men? No, we are not men. We are women and I want to explore all of the things I have mentioned. In the coming weeks and months I will be doing that. 

I hope that you will let me know if there are more topics that I have missed that are important to you. This will be a continuation of Women Speak. We will meet here each Thursday.

Keep on doing what you love. Do what inspires you. Do it without guilt. Do it for yourself. Life and blogging are not continuous competitions. 

Have a simple and serene day.


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11 comments:

  1. I've been in Blog Land for about 2 or more years now. Some posts....I try to make very pretty. Other posts are in the summer...gardening and such. Easy to be pretty. However the blogs where every single post is a carefully stylized magazine shoot worthy post bore me after awhile. I've seen some people's kitchens etc as much as my own. Don't need to see them again. Don't need to see your mantel every other day. Sure, show me a pretty vignette with your story but it's nice to have a story, too.

    As to our generation and being relevant, as long as our kids need us to babysit THEIRS we'll still be relevant, ha ha :)

    I guess what I am saying is that I seek out and prefer blogs that have a variety, most of it being about real life. While I try to take nice photos and edit them, yesterday I posted texted phone pics from my son's family because there was a cute story there. Should I have not posted my story because the pics were not as perfect as some of my other ones? I prefer pretty photos as much as the next person but if you have a photo of your grandchild that isn't in a stylized shoot, I'd rather see that.

    I still smile thinking about a photo from Nana Diana's blog last year where she showed toys all over the place and the 'mess' the grands were making. Well of course! That's real life! :)

    Oh and I love a clean house and hate to clean too. LOL I had three boys and was never grumpier than when I was cleaning the bathroom commode :) There was a space and time where I only had to be grumpy about pet hair ( there's still that ) but it's back to the boys and the commode now ( with the grands :) and what about all of that goopy green kid's toothpaste in the sink ? : )

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    1. I think the most important thing is to be true to who you are. Write about what appeals to you. I stopped reading many blogs too, because I became bored with the sameness. I like blogs that are real, and I don't want to be tied down by what advertisers tell me is what women want to read. I'm a woman and I know what I like :)

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  2. I wish I had grands around to complain about but sadly they live far away and are grown. My daughter had her children young, like mom. I lost my husband 9 months ago so I am alone, except for my dog. I have found I am irrelevant in the workplace and I definitely don't fit in at the senior center. I feel caught between generations. I have found very few blogs I am interested in that are done by "Boomers" well yours and Debra's are the only two. I like a clean home but hate to clean and my home is not a magazine shoot so I don't post pictures of it to my blog. I am glad you are posting on Tuesday's about these subjects. It will be interesting to hear other peoples perspective. Debbie

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    1. I think there are many of us that feel as you do, Debbie. I often feel as if I am caught between generations. Most of the women that I know in my mom's generation were left well enough off after losing their husbands that they can still go out and do what they want. Unfortunately for many in our generation we were raised to be stay at home moms and then forced out into the workforce at a later age. This has left us financially insecure. I have talked about this in the past, but it is definitely something to discuss again at a later date.

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  3. My blog started as one about weight loss, but over the years it has morphed more into nutrition, and emotional health...with a strong dose of family and life's foibles. Some WLB (weight loss bloggers) have indicated annoyance with that. I pity them that they feel that a blog has to be so one dimensional. I'M not one dimensional. Why should my blog be?

    Great post, Laura.

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    1. That is so true, Gwen. None of us are one dimensional and I think it is shortsighted to think that we can sustain a blog that way. I want to see more from women bloggers.

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  4. I'm so not a fan of niche blogging...I just can't fit in, can't decide, I like to explore, find new and interesting things in life. We are all unique, and that's what makes us so interesting...I was never into blogs that show me photos of their perfect worlds, kitchens, bathroom renos constantly. It's just not real life. And it's certainly not my life.

    As for being a Baby Boomer...I'm created of the very last dust of the comet...depending on who you talk to my age group is either not in, or just on the edge teetering either way...it's a interesting perspective to always follow the life changing, and culture changing group of Boomers.

    Sometimes it makes me feel like I am picking up the pieces...always dealing with the repercussions of their demographics. And other times I feel that I am reaping the benefits of the changes they forced society to make.

    Jen

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    1. Well said, Jen. I think many of the large blogs have found themselves having to rethink. There are only so many times you can show the same perfect room or paint the same piece of furniture. The blogs that hold my attention are the ones who do branch out and who are a real representation of the woman behind the blog. I guess, being a counselor I am more interested in seeing below the surface.

      Interesting to hear your perspective on following right after the baby boomers. I am proud of the things we helped to accomplish, and I still want so much to leave this world a better place for the women who are coming behind us.

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  5. We live in north central indiana. Here I see women who stayed at home until their children either began or left elementary school. All this was good with hubby. Now, these same women must work until at least 65 in order to have any money. Some where along the way husband decided they were no longer a team working together for the family. The pension now belongs to the husband. He will visit wife's work bringing coffee only for himself and walk around talking with others. Still wifes job to fix all three meals, do wash, clean house and work. She is bitter because husband lied in early years and now she does not feel well and tries to keep going. On top of all some women are trying to care for a parent or two. I say tell me the truth and hold to it so I can have a plan that will work. My daughter works with several of these women and you can feel their rage vented at everyone. More than rage. The pain and the hurt of being deceived by someone they loved.

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  6. those are all interesting topics for conversation. I look forward to participating in them and reading what others have to say.

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  7. As a teacher, I think it's my duty to make boys and girls realise that, if we are different physically, we have the same intellectual abilities. It's something we talk a lot about and what I've noticed is that in the young generation I teach to, there are very few boys (or girls) that have doubts about that, so I have hope for the future.

    Now, about blogs, I obviously love blogging and love reading blogs. Thus said, I have noticed that some blogs, written by women, tend to encourage that vision that women have nothing else to do on this Earth than to take care of a perfect house. That really bugs me and I usually unsuscribe after a few posts.

    I personnally think of decoration as a hobby, the one I share on my blog, but it doesn't define me. I'm more than my house (however dearly I love it).

    Thanks for such an interesting topic!

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