For a long time I just couldn't say no, and then I would often find myself feeling angry and frustrated when I had way too much on my plate.
Then I finally learned to say no, but I would spend forever explaining why I said no. It was as if I thought I was going to fall out of favor with the requesting person. Ummmm!!! if that person stopped liking me because I said no, then do I really want to have them in my life?
So now I am learning to just say no, and if the person starts asking me why not, I no longer feel like I have to explain my answer. No means no. I actually ran into this situation yesterday with a family member. I am finding that the more I do it the easier it gets, and when I do say yes I think the yes carries a lot more meaning.
So what about you? Do you feel that you have a hard time saying no, and when you do, do you start explaining yourself?