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Thursday, February 27, 2014

transformations....finding your voice

When I woke up this morning I noticed that my voice was a little scratchy and my first thought was "oh no, I can't lose my voice. I have so much to say today".

I'm not sure that everyone wants to hear what I have to say today, but I want to have the ability to say it. 

Do you know what you want to tell the world? Do you know what your passion is, and do you have a burning desire to speak about it?

Often, finding our voice can be difficult. That is when we have to listen to our inner thoughts and tune into our emotions. What makes you happy, or angry, or causes you to cry? Is there something you want to change? It doesn't have to be life altering or world changing. 

Your voice is uniquely yours. No one else can speak it but you, and what you have to say is important. You may have to sort through the clutter in your mind, but your voice is there. It is so much of who you are and it is yours to share however you want.

If you know that you want to share your voice but you are having a difficult time knowing what you want to say, write your thoughts down. Keep a journal. Then go back and see if you can find a pattern. You may be surprised at what your thoughts are telling you to speak about. You may find you have gifts that you weren't aware of. 

I love reading what each of you has to say. In your blog posts and in the comments you leave I hear your voices.

The world needs your unique perspective. It needs to hear your voice.

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Wednesday, February 26, 2014

and then sometimes

When you are an antiques and vintage dealer you spend hours and hours sitting through auctions, scouring thrift stores, schlepping from yard sale to yard sale just to find special things to pass on to others. 

So many times you are disappointed. Auction items go too high to make a profit. The thrift store shelves are bare. The yard sales are filled with nothing but junk. 

But you keep on because that is what you do.

And then one day you walk into the thrift store and once again the shelves are bare, but

there it sits, alone on a shelf, as if to say I am here waiting. It is almost like there is a bright light shining on it, because it knows its value and so do you. Fortunately no one else knew so it was left sitting alone. 

You quickly pick it up and place it in your cart, and right after you do a woman sees it and says "oh wow, what a great find. Can I have it? ". Ummm, No.

That wonderful Catherineholm bowl is going home with me.

And it did and it is now in my shop. Because sometimes after all of those fruitless hours, you find that one special thing.

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Monday, February 24, 2014

i have that...or it's me and you Brad Pitt

I have this weird thing. I often don't recognize people's faces. It can be really embarrassing and in many cases hurtful to the person whose face I don't recognize. 

For example, I had a neighbor who I talked to across our yards on a regular basis. I saw her at the grocery store one day and had no idea who she was. OUCH!!!

Or how about the time when I was working at the counseling center in grad school. A client came in for an appointment. I walked out into the waiting room, smiled and said "are you here waiting for someone". She got a very perplexed look on her face and said "you".  BIG OUCH!!!! I was her therapist, but I didn't recognize her face from the week before. Didn't help my credibility. 

You would think that someone in the Counseling Psychology department would have recognized my glitch, but maybe it wasn't well known then. I just found out on BlogHer that there is a name for what I have. It is Prosopagnosia also called face blindness. 

I have never had a severe case of it, and I seem to have gotten better over the years. Maybe I have learned to compensate. There are some people who don't even recognize their own children. My sister has it. There was one time she didn't recognize her ex husband (that might be a good thing) and another time she didn't recognize our younger sister (not so good). One of my daughters also has a mild form of it. 

I have never liked big social gatherings. I thought I was social phobic or just shy, but in reality I always feared I would embarrass myself by not recognizing someone I know. That has happened. Now I know that I can just say, "I'm sorry, I have face blindness" and possibly that will serve as a conversation starter. 

So to anyone whose face I didn't recognize in the past, "Please accept my humble apology. I am prosopagnosic." 

Oh and about Brad Pitt. He said last year that he believes he is prosopagnosic. He will have a conversation with someone at a party and a few minutes later he has no recognition of their face. (I do that too, Brad) It causes him to stay at home a lot. Maybe Brad and I should get together and discuss our mutual problem. I promise you, Brad, I would never forget your face. 



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Saturday, February 22, 2014

oh, is there a world out there?

Are you a reader? If so, you can probably relate to this.

Although I do watch some TV, especially during the cold months, I am a nonstop reader. 

I am one of those people who will read anything that is placed in front of them. I love sitting in my chair with a good book, becoming so immersed that I have no idea what is going on around me.

Reading is usually the last thing I do before I fall asleep at night. 

I can't tell you how many nights I fight sleep to try and get through one more chapter or even one more page. 

Is reading a form of escape? Maybe. In some cases probably, but I can't think of any reason that it is a bad escape unless maybe it is keeping me from taking care of things in the real world. You know things like cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, paying bills.......OOPS!!!

How come none of the people in the books I read have to do all of those pesky things. 

Is it possible they aren't real people?


Now back to what is important. Which page was I on?

P.S. You may have noticed that I was missing in action for a couple of days. No, I wasn't actually reading all of that time. I have been working on getting my booth started at the Peddlers Mall. Good news is even though it is not set up like I really want it yet, I have started to sell things already, so that is a good thing.

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Wednesday, February 19, 2014


It must have rained overnight. When I woke up this morning I could hear the swish of tires outside my window as people made their way to work, or to drop their kids off at the school bus stop, or to catch a quick cup of coffee and some gossip at the neighborhood coffee pub.

The Coffee Pub in summer.

I think about the randomness of life. about how people come in and out of our lives and what each of them means. Some stay for a lifetime, while others may be just someone you steal a glance of at a traffic stop. Each one is somehow woven into our lives for a reason.

Just like a field of daisies, we're planted and grow among other daisies. Each one unique. Each one an individual among all the other daisies. Some wither and die early, while others reach for the sun and rain and grow from the nourishment.

As humans, we most often seek the company of our fellow humans. We thrive from the contact. The hugs. The smiles. The words of encouragement.

But, there are also those times when we crave solitude. The peace and quiet of being alone. Enjoying our thoughts. Listening to the sounds around us. Reading. Thinking of the present. Planning our future.

Sometimes for me it is just enough to be in the company of my shadow.

As I wake up to a new day and listen to the swish of tires I wonder what the day will bring. Will I have contact with any of those people who pass by my window so early in the morning? Who will I meet on my journey today? Will they be someone who just flashes me a smile or will they become a long time presence in my life? 

I wonder.

Life is so random.

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Monday, February 17, 2014

give me an S...give me a P

give me an R...give me a ..... well, I think you can figure out where this is heading. 


Things are warming up here in central Kentucky this week. We will get a taste of spring weather as a system from the southwest takes control of our weather. By Thursday temps will be up in the sixties and there is a chance of thunderstorms. 

Ahhh!!! spring, when the flowers start to poke there sweet tender shoots out of the earth, when soft breezes stir the air, when people smile again and speak to their neighbors.....


This is still February, and although a tease of spring weather is wonderful, actual spring is still a month away, and the ten day forecast shows highs will only be in the thirties next week. 

For most of the country this has been a terrible winter. In the northeast, Claudia at Mockingbird Hill Cottage is digging out of snow that is measured in feet. 

I hear naysayers who believe that this means there is no global warming. Unfortunately the climate change that we are experiencing produces extremes in weather and can produce more intense snows. 

Does this mean we can expect more winters like this one?


This leads me to an important question. Is anyone interested in sharing a tent in Key West?

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Saturday, February 15, 2014

it's all unlimited

How often do we find ourselves saying why can't I be as pretty as she is, or how come I can't make as much money as she does, or I wish I was a smart as she is, or how come my blog doesn't do as well as hers does. 

Many of us were raised to view life from a perspective of lack. We see the world as not having enough resources for everyone, when in fact the universe holds unlimited resources. 

I've always been interested in the fact that there are people with what we consider average looks, average intelligence and limited education who become hugely successful. How do they do it? What do they have that helps them create this tremendous success? I believe it has to do with their outlook on life. 

They live from a perspective that there is enough for everyone. In other words my success isn't contingent on your success or failure. 

From a blogging perspective, if you have thirty thousand followers how am I supposed to become successful. You already have a huge piece of the pie and that leaves me with only a small sliver. That is looking at it from a position of lack. How many blog readers do you think there are? Not only are there millions of blog readers who might find my blog, but many of your thirty thousand followers might also be interested in my blog, or maybe my readership will be different. Maybe, I need to open myself up to the possibility that the people who will truly be interested in my blog are out there just waiting to find it. 

I believe it is human nature that we all will have moments when we feel discouraged, when things may not be going as planned, but I think those are the moments when we need to look at the message we are sending out to the universe. For me, after I have my pity party moment, I take time to think about the message I am sending out. Am I saying I don't have enough, I will never have enough, I will never be a success? If I am then I know I need to move away from a position of lack. 

I don't think we attract what we want, but what we are. It is important to live our life being honest with who we are, and I think that carries over to our blogs. We must know who we are and write from that perspective. I believe if we do that the universe will send that honesty back to us. 

So I will never try to copy anyone else's style. I will try to learn from others, but I will always be honest with who I am. I will walk the talk. 

What is your perspective?

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Friday, February 14, 2014

wishing you love

May your day be overflowing with hearts and love.

Happy Valentines Day!!!

to the sweetest friends in the world.

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Thursday, February 13, 2014

let it be so

I am dreaming of drives in the country,

of pretty flowers blooming in the garden,

of weeping cherry trees,

 but it's another day of waking to this.

Of bundling up in heavy coats and snow boots 

and driving out of my neighborhood to see this.

I feel a discontent, a longing, an inability to find the words? Am I alone in this feeling?

Then I read where Jen at Muddy Boot Dreams talks about trying to stave off cabin fever and feeling a lack of words. How Brenda at Cozy Little Cottage is finally starting to feel some momentum.

I look outside and see that the sun is shining, and even though there is more snow coming tomorrow I look at the weather forecast and see that in six days the temps are going to be in the sixties. 


Let it be so.

Thanks again to everyone who has prayed for Don. He got through the surgery fine and is now starting the recovery process.

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Wednesday, February 12, 2014

well wishes

First I want to thank everyone for your continued prayers for my brother-in-law. This will be a difficult day for my family as we get him through his surgery, but I know that it will all turn out well for him.

This is also a day for celebration, and I don't want to let that pass. Today my youngest daughter turns 33. I can't believe my baby is that old.

Katy is my hero in so many ways. I spend everyday being so grateful to have her in my life.

It is also my younger sister Tricia's birthday. I won't tell you her age without her permission. She is on the far right in this photo taken a couple of years ago. 

That's me in the middle with a bad sinus infection and no makeup. She and her daughter were only here for a day and I wasn't about to miss the fun.

I remember on the day Katy was born Tricia called and said "Why can't you have her on my birthday?" (she was still a teenager then). My reply was "Sorry it isn't going to happen." Two hours later Katy was here. Guess Tricia got her birthday wish. 

Thank you again to everyone for your prayers for Don. I will update to let you know how it goes.

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Monday, February 10, 2014

from the old to the new and a prayer request

I love old things. Vintage and antiques make my heart sing and that will never change. 

I buy them, I sell them, I hold them close. They seem to give me comfort and a sense of continuity. 

But, I also know that there are some old things in life that don't serve us well. They break like an old tree in a storm.

That's when we know that we have to make changes, even though we may want to cling to something or someone. 

I believe that everything and everyone come into our lives for a reason. They are sent to teach us a lesson. To help us grow. It is up to us to know when to move on to reach for new goals. It is up to us to take a chance on new endeavors.

Something new can be good, but it can also be scary. When I woke up last Thursday my first thought was how am I going to stock my booth. WHAT???? I don't have an antique booth. I haven't been able to find a space. 

Two hours later my phone rang. It was the Peddlers Mall wanting to know if I was still interested in a space. REALLY?? I put my name in 18 months ago. I never expected to hear from them again. Not only did they have a space, but it is in building one on the first floor. Prime real estate, so to speak!!!

Yes, of course I do. So I signed the lease, and gave them my money. Then my thoughts of the morning came back. How am I going to stock it? What am I going to use for shelves. I'm a little bit broke at the moment, but I had prayed for a new stream of income and I got this. So I will use what I have as a start and hope the rest will come.

The prayer request. My brother-in-law Don, who has been in the nursing home since August and is in very fragile health is being admitted to the hospital today for a leg amputation on Wednesday. I know I have some wonderful prayer warrior followers, so I am asking for prayers for him. 

I will be by my sister's side through this, but will post as much as possible, and will let you know how it goes. 

Thank you.

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Saturday, February 8, 2014

wall update

I hope everyone is having a great start to the weekend. I loved the opening ceremony for the Olympics last night. It is so amazing what they are able to do with the new technology,and it is the one time that I wished I had a large screen HDTV. But, as I am not a big TV watcher it isn't on my list of wants.

I have been trying to fit in a little decorating this week while also trying to find some new streams of income. Something did pop up out of the blue a couple of days ago. I'll share that with you next week and let you know how it is going. 

You may have noticed that I also did a little redecorating on my blog. I wanted it to be lighter and simpler. I think I am happy with it (at least for awhile). What do you think?

Now on to the wall update. 

You may remember my old window frame from here.

I hung it on the wall with a few embellishments.

I've since decided to tweak it a bit,

and to start adding some other things to the wall.

I found the old window screen at a Habitat for Humanity shop when I was living in North Carolina. It was 50 cents. I loved that shop. The one we have here is just too expensive to find any real bargains. 

The Bridge St. sign is actually for sale in my shop. As a dealer, things are always being traded in and out of my house, so this will be replaced once I find a buyer.

I'm sure I will probably add more  at some point, but for now I am going to leave it like it is.

I'll be watching the Olympics this afternoon while I work. Uh oh, I just heard a loud crash in the kitchen. SIGH!!!!

Clean up on aisle one.

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