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Tuesday, November 4, 2014

women speak: making and keeping commitments

Commitments!! We all make them. Sometimes we keep them and sometimes we don't. I have a family member who makes commitments and then rarely keeps them. I call it the two day rule for her. It is as if after two days the novelty has worn off and she just tosses it aside and moves on to something else. It doesn't bother her in the least. Unfortunately, it does bother the person she has made the commitment to. Sometimes I feel like when you open up her commitment box there just isn't much there except one little thing she thinks will appease you.



I on the other hand am nearly obsessed with keeping my commitments. If I have an appointment at nine I am there ten minutes early. If I say I will have lunch with you tomorrow I will be there unless there is a major emergency. If I make you a promise I will do everything in my power to make it happen. 

Sometimes our commitments can stack up and become overwhelming. That's when we need to cut back and prioritize, because taking on too many can lead to stress and poor health. 



I have made a commitment for the month of November. I will post every day on my blog. This is the first time I have done this, but as I am trying hard to take my blog to the next level, I know that it is something I need and want to do. The impetus for this was NaBloPoMo, sponsored by BlogHer. Anyone can join in and it is a great way to meet new bloggers. If you would like to participate, it isn't too late, you have until November 5th, and you can join here.

So this week I would like to talk about the  commitments we make and how we keep them. Are you a commitment freak like me, have a more laid back attitude like my relative, or are you somewhere in between? Also how do you respond to people who don't keep their commitments to you?

So you know the drill. Grab the beverage of your choice and let's chat, and if you are new here this week we are so happy to have you join us.

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18 comments:

  1. Good luck on the challenge I have NO doubt you can do this. Meeting new bloggers is always a very good thing. I always keep my commitments too I think it is the most important thing you can give yourself. That being said I wish I could join NaBloPoMo it sounds like fun but I cannot this month. Looking forward to your words of wisdom. Hug B Hug B

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    1. Hopefully you can join next time, Buttons. Sounds like you already have enough commitments on your plate. I think the most important thing is t know when to say yes and when to say no. Once we have mastered that then we can keep our commitments with much less stress attached :)

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  2. Falling somewhere in the middle of the road group, I’m careful about making commitments in the first place. Remember our frequent discussions about learning to say no. That was a hard-won life goal. When I do take on a task or make an appointment I will follow through. Yours will be an interesting month. Your dedication is admirable, Laura.

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    1. Thanks, Lynn. I think you have definitely hit the nail on the head. We have to know when it is right to take on a commitment and when to say no. That learning to say no has really helped me :)

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  3. I have always been one to stick to whatever commitments I make-sometimes to my own detriment. I have learned in the last few years to only commit to what I feel I can comfortably do...and to Just Say NO sometimes. Good luck with the challenge. xo Diana.

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    1. Isn't it wonderful that as we age we gain the wisdom to learn to say no. I really caused myself a lot of stress in the past, too taking on commitments when I shouldn't have. I am excited about this challenge and about meeting some new bloggers. xo

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  4. I have learned to be careful about making commitments so that I don't overwhelm myself and disappoint others when I can't follow through. I hate to not be able to do what I say I'm going to do. As for others that don't follow through, well it's pretty frustrating and can be really hurtful. I think we learn pretty quickly who will and who won't do what they say. Good topic. Good luck with the daily posting! hugs!!

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    1. I made a commitment recently that I wasn't able to keep because of the hackers on all my websites. It was frustrating to me and hurtful to the person I let down. I know that sometimes things are out of our control, but I still hate it when I am unable to keep a commitment. I am looking forward to doing daily postings. Hopefully my brain will come up with lots of idea :)

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  5. Laura, I am obsessed with keeping commitments as well. When I was in Texas, there were 2 members of my book club that would always commit and then back out last minute. It drove me crazy!

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    1. That would drive me crazy too, Katie. My family member was driving me crazy, but now I just don't go along with any of her schemes. She can't understand why she can no longer reel me in, but I am so much happier not having to deal with it. :)

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  6. I'm not sure if I would think of myself as being "obsessed" with my commitments but I DO take them seriously. I just try to know when to NOT commit. I was tempted to do the NaBloPoMo after reading about it but then realized that this is going to be a very busy month for me so I chose not to commit. It IS frustrating dealing with people who back out of commitments...Good luck on posting this month!

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    1. Thanks, Sandy. It is really good that you are able to judge when to make commitments, and that you take them seriously. I believe they do the NaBloPoMo at other times of the year. Maybe you will find a time that will be better for you to commit to it :)

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    2. Laura, I'm loving your photos, perfect for this time of year...and they also show off your amazing collection of antiques, and vintage items. I'm like you with the commitment obligations, I'm always early, and if I make it, I do my best to keep it.

      Jen

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    3. Thank you, Jen. I often wonder why some of us take our commitments so much more seriously than others do.

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  7. So glad to have found your blog through NaBloPoMo! I am loving making new connections with so many amazing people from all kinds of places. Thank you for stopping by my blog earlier. I love your blog - visually beautiful - serene and simple, I would say! I am more likely to keep commitments - though I give myself permission to not keep them if it's not good for me, but then I'll communicate and kind of un-make the commitment so to speak. Sometimes if we don't tune in or think things through enough we make commitments that go against our commitments to ourselves or our inner spirit (i.e. over-commit when we need to rest) - so in those cases I try to honor all parties by making the best choice and communicating about it. But sometimes I'm not so good at it and feel drawn in two directions... Thank you for creating this space of community on line!
    Shanti Om
    OmShantiBlog.com

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  8. Welcome. It is so nice to have you here. I love your input. We do so often make commitments that are not true to ourselves and not in our best interest. It can be difficult to extricate ourselves from those, and yes we may feel pulled in two directions. It is good though that we can recognize when that is happening.

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