F Simple and Serene Living: decisions decisions 09 10
Friday, October 10, 2014

decisions decisions


I have really been struggling lately. Feeling pulled in too many directions, while at the same time dealing with health issues. I know that the stress is taking a toll on my health and I am not sure exactly which road I should take. I am a single older woman with a very limited income. Whatever I do I need to find a way to increase my income so that I can support myself.  


Right now I have three things going on. My blog, my Etsy shop, and my antique booth. On top of that I am responsible for my ninety year old mother and I live with my sister who has her own medical issues, which often require me to drive her places. 

If you have been reading my blog for awhile you know that I am pretty much a full disclosure person. I believe that by sharing my difficulties, I may turn on a light for someone else who may be dealing with some of the same issues. 


So today, instead of just writing thoughts down in my journal, I am going to share them with you. 

My blog: It is something I feel called to write. I want to use my counseling training and my love for the issues that women face to help other women. In order to do that I need to be able to give it more time. I need to spend more time promoting it on social media so that I can attract more readers. I need the ad income that it is generating (even though I know some of you hate the ads). 

My Etsy shop. Although with all of the changes Etsy has made my income has dropped dramatically, it does still provide me with a small steady income. I need to find a way to get more buyers back into my shop.

My antique booth: I opened it last February and for the first few months it was generating a nice income. The last three months have been abysmal. I am not sure if I should wait it out and see if things pick up over the holidays or if I should just get out. 


Okay, I am waiting for my own light to come on, and so far it hasn't. I wish I could go back to working a full time job, but there are many days when I am just in too much pain. Those are the days when I can stay home, write my blog, list things on Etsy, and know that my antique booth is full. 

I know that I am not the only woman who is struggling with these issues. Maybe this is a post that I should have left for Women Speak, but for some reason I felt called to write it today. There are so many of us who have been left alone for one reason or another to fend for ourselves and others, and we may just not have the resources to do it all. 


So I am left wondering. Are any of you dealing with the same issues? How are you coping? What criteria do you use to help you choose which path to follow?

As women, we are all in this together. We are workers, mothers, grandmothers, sisters, partners, wives, and so much more. It is a sisterhood of love. It is what draws us together. I am grateful to be able to draw on the wisdom of women everywhere to help me make my decisions.

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15 comments:

  1. Laura, so many of us are struggling and I appreciate your honesty so much. It's been nice to have someone to share my struggles with who understands. I'm lucky to have enough income to not rely on my blog ad income, but I do live a frugal lifestyle. Now with my Mom living close to me I'm busier then ever. I'm happy to do it all but some days I just wish I had a 'Linda' day.

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    1. "Lynns Day Out" may only be a few hours of pampering or retail therapy, but if too much time goes by before I take one I get really crabby (to put it mildly). Go for it, Linda.

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    2. I agree with Lynn, you must take a Linda Day. It is so important. I know that I am equally as guilty of not taking enough time out for myself. IT is wonderful to have each other to share our struggles, but I wish the struggles wold end and we only had joys to share. :)

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  2. Well, I'm not lucky enough to have enough income to not rely on my blog. Which is why pretty much whenever I'm awake, I'm working.
    Brenda

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    1. I'm pretty much working whenever I am awake, too. I wish my blog would support me, but so far that hasn't happened. It means I can't give up the other things yet. :)

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  3. Laura, I feel your pain. I have been struggling for three years. That is when my husband was diagnosed with cancer, stage four and I had to retire to be his cretaker. We lived on 1100 per month for 9 months while driving to treatments 60 miles one way five days a week. Then my very small pension kicked in and two months later Social Security. We totally wiped out our meger savings during that time. This past April He died and once again my income dropped a lot. I have arthritis in my back so most part time work is out and I found most won't hire people over 60 anyway. I don't know how to build an income from my blog and my Etsy and Ebay do not produce much income. Guess I am not a sales man. How have I delt with all this? Well I rely on my faith in God. Not that I do not have doubts at times. But unexpected money and help have seemed to come for my needs. I had a stressful job before I retired, now I have no purpose. I don't know which is worse.It is a shame that so many of the seniors in this country are struggling. Many have to choose between food or medicine. I even saw a quite elderly woman, on oxygen at a cold night shelter for homeless people.

    I don't know if you are a believer but I will pray for you. Blessings. Debbie

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    1. Debbie, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and for the struggles you continue to go through. It is a shame that so many seniors are struggling. No one in this country should have to choose between food and medicine. It is difficult to sell on Etsy and Ebay, but I do get some money from my Etsy shop. I think it is because I have been on there for so long. It has decreased a lot though over the last couple of years. I am so glad you have found our little community and I hope you know that we are here for you. Yes, I do pray every day. It always brings me a sense of peace. xoxo

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  4. Hi Laura....I'm supposed to be "retired" but have three part-time job. The good thing is that I love all three jobs. The bad thing is that I don't have a lot of "me" time. But I squeeze it in whenever I can.

    I do what I love with all three jobs and that is a blessing. Is this the retirement I dreamed about? Not really, but I'm very happy to be alive and very grateful for each new day of life.

    I think my attitude of gratitude has helped me immensely. Plus, I'm grateful I CAN work three part-time jobs!

    Blogging is my joy and I'm grateful for all the wonderful people in blogland, too, including you! You will find your path. Think of all the things you LOVE to do and then think of how to make an income from them. Susan

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    1. Thanks so much for your sweet input, Susan. I am grateful for each day, and say thank you first thing each morning when I wake up. I am actually doing what I love, which is writing my blog and selling vintage and antiques. I just haven't figured out how to get it to support me yet. Hopefully I will :)

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  5. The only things I can think of, Laura, is to let the owners of the consignment shop know you are on call on a part-time basis. A few hours a week may at least cover your booth rental. JMHO stay with the booth through the holidays and get your Christmas stuff on display now. I know I complain when retailers are not waiting until after Thanksgiving to push December sales but those with limited incomes need to spread out their purchases. You might also look into teaching a coping class at the senior citizens or teen center. I believe they are set up so you set a fee for the class and the amount you earn is governed by how many people sign up.

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    1. Great ideas, Lynn. Unfortunately the place where I have my booth is ginormous and so the working there probably wouldn't work. I am getting ready to add Christmas stuff, because you are so right, people are starting to shop. I have just joined the senior center here, so maybe I could approach them about that. xo

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  6. I'm not a single woman, though I was for 45 years. I supported myself, but those days I was younger and there seemed to be more options career-wise. When I decided to freelance, my part of our income dropped dramatically and since my husband is an actor, he is also freelance. Even being married, there are times the financial stress can be overwhelming. So at least I understand the worry about income. I'm always trying to create income, whether it's through coaching or through my blog. It seems we all have to rely on several avenues to income these days.

    I'm sorry you are having health issues and I know that cannot be easy. Could the income from your antique booth just be cyclical? Maybe it will pick up now that summer is over and people want to feather their nests for the fall and winter? I hope so. I don't have a lot to offer but support and understanding, my friend.

    xo
    Claudia

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    1. There really aren't a lot of options for people over sixty. I often feel like the invisible woman. One of my biggest problems is that I spent a lot of years raising children and very few working full time. Consequently my social security is very little. I think a lot of women in this age range are in the same boat. I am hoping that the income from my booth will pick up now that we are into fall and winter. I can't tell you how much your support and understanding means to me. xoxo

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  7. I am in a similar position. I pray and pray some more. Blessings, Catherine

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  8. Dear Laura, thank you for sharing your struggles. Although all our situations are different in one way or more, sharing makes us all feel a little less alone with what we are going through. My main problem now is tha l have had so many set-backs the last three years that everything looks a bit hopeless and l find myself unable to act atall, simply stand and stiffly await the next challenge. I have a cross tattooed on my left arm and under it my special word: "Always". I did this to remind me that, nomatter what happend in life or how l feel, l must Always turn to Him and He will always be there. Much love, Pam xx

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