F Simple and Serene Living: vulnerability 09 10
Monday, September 29, 2014

vulnerability


Women Speak




This morning when my mom and I were having our daily phone conversation she was lamenting the terrible times that we live in. I said that I think we are certainly more aware of the terrible things that happen because of our increased access to world events, the media's propensity to focus on every negative thing that happens, and then to spit it out to us ad nauseum. But I wonder, are we statistically more likely to experience rape, murder, kidnapping, and all other forms of mayhem than we were in our younger years? I thought I would do just a little research.

According to the US Department of Justice  the homicide rate declined sharply from 9.3 homicides per 100,000 in 1992 to 4.8 homicides per 100,000 in 2010. 

What about sexual assault? Well the rate of sexual assault has decreased by more than half since 1993 according to the USD of J.

In fact, the US crime rate is at its lowest point in decades. "The last time the crime rate for serious crime – murder, rape, robbery, assault – fell to (current) levels, gasoline cost 29 cents a gallon and the average income for a working American was $5,807. That was 1963." See article here.

I thought this week we would discuss your feelings of vulnerability. Are you more afraid than you were in the past? If you are, what do you think contributes to your fear? Does reading the above statistics change your feelings of vulnerability? Why or why not? And, because this is a women's forum, I am wondering how you think being a woman influences how you feel. 

So put on your jammies and slippers, grab a cup of tea or coffee and let's chat.

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24 comments:

  1. it surprises and makes me relieved to hear these statistics. I wonder if our being more vigil has helped this along? it seems every time there is a disaster, such as 911, we learn and take additional safety measures. Sadly, there is so much devastation involved and like you said, it saturates the media so we never quite see the positive aspects in the future.

    I know I am much more afraid...paranoid even, than I was in the past, for the sole reason that I have children and worry about their safety more than mine.

    Jane xx

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    1. I often wonder if the purpose of the media bombarding us with all of the negative information is to keep us afraid and to keep us tuned into their networks. More money in their pockets. I was very heartened to read the statistics.

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  2. I think because of many people on drugs willing to rob or kill for enough money for a drug fix....it's scarier times. I just try to take care no matter what time of day or night. Better safe than sorry. I am not as trusting as I once was . xoxo,Susie

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    1. It is interesting that you mentioned drugs, Susie, because that was my mom's argument. Her belief was that there were no drugs when she was growing up. Actually, there have always been drugs in our society. If you look back even to the 1920's drug addiction was a problem. You are right, though drug users are more likely to commit crimes. I researched your concern and found this. The number of "past-month" drug users has declined by almost 50 percent from the 1979 high of twenty-five million -- a decrease that represents an extraordinary change in behavior. It is another statistic that I find encouraging :)

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  3. I don't tend to be a scared person. Things are always going to happen, and you can't stop them. So why worry over what you have no control over? I'm surprised by the statistics, but happily so.
    Brenda

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    1. I agree, Brenda. As my grandmother liked to say, worry will not add one day to your life. I don't watch television coverage of the news. I get my information from the newspaper and from the internet and I try to verify facts before I pass them on. :)

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  4. I don't feel less unsafe at home because I live in a low crime area with a lot of neighbors close by that I know. However, I do feel like our nation is less safe with the threat of terrorism going on right now. I watch the national news a lot and see what's going on in other countries and worry about another attack on our country. I worry about the creative ways terrorists can sneak in our country and blend in with society and plan something terrible. It happened once, so it could happen again. I don't feel like I live in a "target" area though since I don't live in a major big city. So, that relieves me a bit. I will feel better when we get a president in our white house that takes more initiative over these things. I think our current president is scared to admit that we may need to go back to war over this issue.

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    1. Thank you for your input, Kelly. I actually don't watch TV news. It has been proven that all news networks lie and they have a legal right to do so. I wonder where it leaves the viewers. I think it leaves us shocked and afraid.

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  5. I think we are just much more aware of things that go on around us and around the world! It's scary but I refuse to live my life in fear. I'm careful and cautious but I live my life to the fullest.

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    1. I am happy to hear that you don't live your life in fear, because that is no way to live. Just being aware is what is most important, Linda.

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  6. I think that because news comes in an instant it is constantly fed to us. I am happy to hear that the news is better than it is made out to be. Blessings, Catherine

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  7. And here I was just writing about feeling vulnerable out with my camera in the early morning. I am aware of my surroundings, and prepared, but still feel concerned about being in some areas.. With two recent murders of young women in our little town....people here are learning to lock their doors. Something we big city dwellers had been doing forever...innocence lost, along with young lives. So yes that stats may be down...but the crimes are still horrible.

    Jen

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    1. I think it is always important to be aware of our surroundings. I just hate that people feel they are in constant danger. How terrible about the murders in your small town. I lived in California when the Night Stalker was going around killing women in our area. I remember how terrified and vulnerable I felt. That was back in the 1980's.

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  8. We have more media coverage, cell phones, faster transportation now than we did when I was growing up. I played outside from dawn to dark without my mother ever checking on me. Times have changed. I think the decrease is due to our awareness. Also our protection from those wearing badges. I'm sure some would disagree with that. Some are so quick to judge our officials before they know the facts. Not only do we have protection in our cities but our soldiers overseas. Let's hope it continues to improve. A foot note, when my babies were little 30 to 40 years ago, a little old lady walked up to me and questioned why I would bring children in our crazy world.

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    1. I remember a man trying to get me into his car when I was twelve. I lived in a small town in Canada. At the time we were told about strangers and not to take candy, etc. That was 50 years ago. It made me a bit more aware, but as it wasn't dwellt on I went about playing outside and riding my bike everywhere. I hate the fact that kids are kept inside so much today because of the bombardment of fear.

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  9. Hi Laura,
    I think I feel safer now even with all the crime and bad things being reported in the media. I find your statistics on Crime going down is encouraging. I think because things are reported in the news more than ever it seems like we are having more crime not less. The statistics are showing improvement and I think we just have to be aware of our surroundings and just more vigilant to what we are doing when we are out. I think being born in this country especially as a women finds us to be the luckiest women so we need to remember that and know we have far more good going for us than bad living in this country.
    Kris

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    1. I agree with you completely, Kris. I am very encouraged by the statistics and will continue to be aware, but not bombard myself with negative news reporting :)

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  10. I have been batteling through a brick of a historical novel by Alphonso Falcones and feel quite sick and deeply thankful that l don't live in the middle ages - the dark ages. Evil has always existed in this world, it lurks just under the surface and every decade it finds new channels with wich to surface. I often shake my head at the media and their complete incapability or rather unwillingness to report any of all the good things happening around us. No l am not mor afraid than l was when l was younger, l am more concerned about the next generation loosing their sence of self thanks to the digital age and internet addiction. I think a lot, not because l am a woman, but because l am a sensitive person by nature. Blessings, Pam xx

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    1. Evil is definitely not something new in this world, and you are so right. It surfaces in different ways at different times. For me the trick is being aware of what is going on around us and still living our lives to the fullest. xo

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  11. I too am encouraged by the statistics. I am less afraid now than my younger years but less likely to take risk. The first because I have grown more confident in my salvation, the second because I have gained wisdom. As a child in the 50's I played outside and ran the neighborhood without fear but was fondled by many men. As a teen my friends and I walked all over town without fear, yet was being molested by my step father. My point is that I and most other people focus on the good things in the past and the negatives in the present. My grandmother did, my mother did and I suppose generations did before that. Since losing my husband five months ago after a three year battle I have learned to focus on family and joy in the here and now. Thanks for this timely conversation. Debbie

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    1. Debbie, thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. One good thing that has happened is that people no longer feel inclined to sweep things like childhood sexual abuse under the carpet. I am so happy to hear that you are able to enjoy living in the moment. I know from working with adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse that it is a very difficult thing to work through. xo Laura

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  12. Ah, Laura. Another good topic. My input today is about of all things purses. I have always carried a large tote type purse ~ one for each season. This year I was aware my wallet containing all my cash and credit cards was horribly accessible. I wanted a smaller purse with a strap long enough to fit over my body. I scored at the thrift shop (a designer bag yet ~ double score) leaving not only my valuables safer but also leaving both hands free to pick up more stuff. Win, win.

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    1. I love all things, purses, Lynn, but I thought for sure it was going to be about carrying a big purse in case you needed to whack someone over the head. :) On a more serious note, carrying one that fits across you body is a very good idea. Definitely win, win.

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