F Simple and Serene Living: our women friends 09 10
Monday, September 22, 2014

our women friends


Women Speak



In my last post, a Snippet of Inspiration, I touched on the importance of friends.  The friendships we have with other women are very special. From the time we are little girls we forge female friendships. These friendships may last an hour at the playground, or they may last a lifetime. There are good friendships and there are bad friendships. Hopefully, as we age, we learn how to discern between the two. I have had both kinds during my lifetime, but I no longer allow toxic relationships to remain a part of my life. I let those so called friends go, wishing them only the best.


The good friendships are the ones we hold dear to our hearts. Although, I have lost some of my closest friends over the years, I remember the good times we had. The sharing of both the good and the bad. The special memories.The love that will remain in my heart forever.


I have a friend who is my opposite. She drives a new sixty thousand dollar car. I drive a fifteen year old car that is barely holding together. She loves to shop and wears lots of flashy jewelry. I have to be dragged into the mall kicking and screaming. She loves steak. I haven't eaten red meat in sixteen years. Recently when I was talking about how I juice every morning she looked at me, rolled her eyes and said, "what's next, going braless and wearing Birkenstocks?".  I immediately replied with, "that's a great idea!". Then we both burst out laughing. That is what friends are. We make each other laugh. We listen when no one else will. We may be different, but we respect those differences. We hold each other up.


Friends can come from any where and at any time. They may be in our own families or they may be someone we meet through a shared interest. They may be near by or far away. Many of my friends are right here. Sharing their lives with me through their blogs. Holding me up the way so many of my friends have done in the past.

Today I would love to hear about your best friends. One you have now, or maybe one from your past. 

So grab a cup of coffee or tea, and let's chat.

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20 comments:

  1. Hi Laura....Friends are, indeed, very precious. An extremely dear friend is in Arizona, where we used to live. I thought I'd die the day I had to say goodbye to her. Well, here is it 12 years since we left the southwest, and my dear friend and I have spoken on the phone just about every week and have exchanged hundreds of cards and notes. We remember each others' birthdays and other holidays. We both wept over the deaths of each others' cats. I love her so much.

    Some friends, who I thought would be in my life for the rest of my life, have gone along different paths. That is very painful but part of life.

    For every precious friend that remains, I give thanks. Susan

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    1. What a sweet testament to your special friend, Susan. That is exactly what our women friends give us, Susan. No matter how far we are from them, the bond we have never dies. xo

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  2. This is such a coincidence! I've had 3 long time friends contact me in my past week or so....one with a letter in the mail, one an email and another called me for a long talk. All of these are long time friends. And how welcome to hear from them. It doesn't matter if we have a good husband or a close family....there's nothing like a girlfriend. Kindred spirits. Let's not forget about them but hold them close forever! I like the idea of friends that are more casual, too. I've sure made a lot of blog friends...like you that make a difference in my life! Sweet hugs, Diane

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    1. Diane,
      That is so exciting that three long time friends called you this past week. I love how you can be away from a good girlfriend and just take up where you left off no matter how long it has been. I am happy to call you a friend too. You are always there. :)

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  3. Hey Laura... First, let me say...great post! The Bible says in Proverbs 17:17, "A friend loves at all times"... I think your post shares that... it does not matter how different we are.... true friends stick like glue and can even find laughter in our differences... I guess my hubby is my overall best friend but I have a few dear friends who have been with me regardless of where I move or end up. We can pick up just like it was yesterday regardless of the lapse of time.. yes, blog land has connected me to some wonderful women who are kindred spirits... Really enjoyed this post.. Blessings!

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    1. I am so happy that you enjoyed this, Patty. I just responded to Diane that it is wonderful how we can just pick up like it was yesterday with old friends. :)

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  4. There is a saying that you might now about people, they can come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Your friend sounds like a lifetime keeper and I try to think of the others as just passing through and not worry if they come and go. xx

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    1. That is so very true, Amy. There are people that I have known for only a short time who had a profound effect on my life. I think we learn something from every relationship that we have. My friend is a keeper :)

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  5. Love this post about your friend. I have three ladies who go waaaaaay back... the kind you can not see for years and it is like you never left off when you visit again... the kind who you could call at 2 in the morning and they would be there... we are all very different... but, the love - it is common among us. =) blessings ~ tanna

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    1. Sounds like you have three pretty amazing friends, Tanna. It is a sign of a true friendship that they are there for you no matter what, at any time. :)

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  6. A lovely testament to friendship! I've had both kinds too and the older I get the less time I want to waste on friendships that don't give me joy. My friend I've had the longest (28 years) just visited last weekend. I love having that kind of history but love my newer friends so much too!

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    1. Thanks you, Jen. I think that as we age, we learn that we need to surround ourselves with supportive people. Life is too short to be surrounded with negativity. When we find good friends we need to hold on to them :)

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  7. I'm fortunate enough to still be friends with my childhood friend that lived across the street from me while growing up. She lives about an hour from me and we just recently reconnected after not hearing from her for a few years. She's very busy with a career and raising two young children. We are a little bit opposite too, but our childhood roots keep us connected. What I like most about her is that we don't compete against each other. I had a friend that did that and she became a nuisance always calling me to brag about something or complain about someone. She rarely complimented anything I did and wanted all of the attention on herself. She once scolded me as if I was a child so I ended our friendship. I didn't enjoy being friends with her anymore. I'm happy to say that I will be meeting up with my childhood friend next month though. We haven't seen each other in years. We text each other a lot these days now that iphones are available. That has actually helped keep us connected better. I cherish our friendship knowing it is not like any other I have with anyone else. You can't just go out and find someone that knew you as a child and knows your family and childhood home. I appreciate that kind of connection the older I get now.

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    1. Kelly, that is so exciting. I have reconnected with a couple of childhood friends through Facebook. We stay connected that way as they live in Canada. It is so much fun to reminisce about things from our childhood. You are right when you say that roots keep you connected. It is sad that sometimes we have to cut friends loose, but sometimes they are just too toxic and not a good fit for us. xo

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  8. Unlike Kelly, above, I have long lost track of childhood friends, and since that time of my life isn't what I like to focus on, I don't want to "go there" again. I expect we'd be very different today. And I don't think I was the best at choosing friends then. But now I have friends that I dearly love. It's funny how you can meet three women at the same time, but it only "gels" with one. She and I have lots of fun and laughter together. And thankfully, the same beliefs and political views.
    Brenda

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    1. I am so happy that you have that one wonderful friend. I know how special she is. I made some bad choices in friendships in the past, but I do believe I learned from them. :)

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  9. I met my very best friend on the first day of 2nd grade. We have been though so much since that day through now, our 65th birthdays! She lives in Denver and we live in Wisconsin. One of the best parts of our friendship is that when our daughter graduated from HS my husband drove her out there and for that and the next 2 summers during college, she went back and was a Nanny for her kids each summer. That was 23 years ago, and now my daughter thinks of her as a dear friend, also. In fact she did a road trip this summer and spent 4 days with her. It truly is the circle of life!! And even though I now, of course, have good friends close by, it is hard to beat a friend who has been with you since you were a little girl and who has essentially known you throughout your entire life. Unlike friends made later in life, she knew my parents and grandparents and siblings, and grew up with me. If I talk about a relative, or when I was little, she knows who / what I am talking about. Friends made later in life don't have that connect ~ even though they, too, are good friends. It is true that we make friends during the different seasons of our lives. But it is truly a gift to have a friend who has been through all of those seasons through all of the years together with you.
    Great post!!

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    1. I love your friendship story, Chis. How wonderful that you have been friends for most of your lives. You all made a very special connection at such a young age. I love that your daughter became friends with her, too. Yes, we make friends at each stage of our lives and they are special to us in different ways, but it is wonderful to have someone who shares your memories. :)

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  10. The best thing about a BFF's is they are family you get to choose.

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