F Simple and Serene Living: what are you whispering to yourself? 09 10
Thursday, August 28, 2014

what are you whispering to yourself?

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This is one of those telling on myself moments. Last night when I checked my bank balance I found that I had done something I had never done before. I overdrew my account and was charged what I considered a horrible fee. I was at first very angry with myself. How could I have done that? I am so careful with my money. I live on such a strict budget. I wanted to sit down and cry.

That was when I stopped myself. The words that I was whispering to myself were having a negative effect on my well being. I could feel my sense of serenity slipping away.



So I changed what I was whispering to myself. I told myself that it is okay to make mistakes. We all do it. We learn from our mistakes and move forward. I felt an actual sense of lightness.

So many times we whisper negative things to ourselves and those things that we whisper affect us in so many negative ways. When we change the negative to positive it can make a profound difference in our lives, both mentally and physically.

I hope that you will pay attention to what you are whispering to yourself. That you will love yourself and others in your whisperings. 

Have a wonderful self loving day.



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24 comments:

  1. Laura,
    I agree that I'm my own worst enemy with my whisper because she can be so negative. I would never allow anyone to speak to someone as my inner voice speaks to me. I've been trying to change that this year.
    Call the bank and ask them if they'd refund the fee since you'd not ever done this and they'll work with you. I waived/partial refund of fees more times that I can even count.
    Donna

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    1. Thank you so much, Donna. Blogging friends are the best. I called the bank and they could see I had never done it before so they refunded the fee to me. HOORAY!!! You are right about how we often talk to ourselves in ways that we would never tolerate for someone else. I hope we will all work on it more :)

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  2. This is such a good point. We need to guard our thoughts....but it's so so hard! And we all make mistakes but it sure can be upsetting when we do. Lots of hugs my friend, Diane

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    1. It is hard to guard our thoughts. I have a thing I do when I find myself thinking bad thoughts. I say sp it and make a slashing motion with my hand. It really works for me :)

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  3. Well done for putting this behind you and moving on. We do all make mistakes from time to time and I bet that you won't ever make this one again, so that is actually a great thing isn't it! xx

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    1. They are refunding the fee, but you are right, I won't ever make this mistake again. Darn that DMV for only taking checks :)

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  4. oh well, its done, its over, good to let it go,, take care my friend,,

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    1. It is, but thanks to Donna I am getting my money back :)

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  5. I think we beat ourselves up over things we shouldn't! Our inner thoughts need to be as positive as possible. Good post Laura!!

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    1. Thanks, Linda. IT is definitely the things we say to ourselves that matter, because we do listen to them :)

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  6. This is very true. Words that are spoken to ourselves have profound effect and leave an impression. It is better to be kind and patient; not only to others but to ourselves as well. Blessings, Cathrine

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    1. Kindness, patience, and love are the most important things we can do for ourselves and others

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  7. I agree. Negativity is so damaging. It helps no one. Love and forgiveness are the things that move us forward and influence others for the better as well.

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    1. Yes, when we radiate out love and forgiveness from our heart, it has a profound effect on others.

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  8. oh yes! I often hear fellow young moms talking about themselves (especially the way they look) in front of their children (girls in particular)...

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    1. I hate to hear that, Daniela. It is so important that all women are role models for their children. When children hear messages of negativity they internalize them and carry them forward.

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  9. I think it's only normal to be upset over something like that. Yes, we do have to realize that we are human and not perfect. It's a hard lesson to learn! I love that quote you shared.

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    1. It is a great quote. Although we get upset when we do things like I did, it is important to let the bad feelings go and know that it is human to make mistakes.

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  10. So very true, we are our own worst enemies. I have had almost all my friends, and family too, disappear since l got cronically ill. I am nolonger cool to be with. What horrible things havn't l whispered to myself due to that. Trying to tell myself now, that it's not my fault and that it doesn't say as much about me as it does about them, but it's not easy atall. Whisper whisper. About using too much money and not keeping within the food budget is something l am constantly cross with myself about. We need to let ourselves off the hook, do our best and make some mistakes along the way. Thanks for the reminder Laura. So glad you had the fee refunded. Wish you the loveliest weekend ahead. Blessings, Pam xx

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    1. Sweet Pam, I hope that you always know that you are doing the best that you can and being the best that you can be. I watched my father become much more irritable when he had the same illness. It is unfortunately a symptom of the disease. I hope you will whisper to yourself that you are loved, because you most certainly are. xoxo

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