Each Tuesday here at I'm So Vintage we have a weekly forum with topics of interest for women. This forum is for and about all of us. A couple of weeks ago one of my dear readers contacted me with her story. She said she is an aging woman who has never been married. She is concerned about who her support system will be as she gets older.
One of the biggest concerns for all aging women is who will take care of us when we get older. For some there is a spouse, adult children, and/or siblings, but some women do not have any family members to rely on. Where do we turn if we are in this situation?
Even though I am only 63 and have daughters and siblings I am thinking of how I will take care of myself. Because I have limited financial means I know that I need to find a place to live where I won't be a burden on my family. I also want it to be a place where I will feel safe and be able to interact with other people on a regular basis. That is why I am already looking into independent senior living apartments for those who are 62 and older. I am planning to put my name on the waiting list for some apartments in the Atlanta area next year. My goal is to move there once I turn 65 in December of 2015.
None of us know what will happen in the future. My situation may completely change, but I want to be prepared. I know that I need to get back into my own place. I miss my things. I miss having my own space. I miss my independence. I miss living near my grandchildren and my daughters. I also know that I don't want to intrude on their lives or be a burden to them. I plan on working at my business for a long time to come and hopefully it will begin to support me better in the future.
Each of us have different situations with different needs, but I know that we all want to know that we are taken care of. Most areas of the country have women's centers and senior support services. There are job services for people over the age of 50. Getting involved in a church, with meetup groups, or taking a part time job are all ways to meet new people and find support services. There are even dating services for people over 50 if you are looking for a new partner.
I'm sure that you all have ideas that you can share, so grab a cup of tea or coffee and let's chat.