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Monday, July 28, 2014

is your doctor listening?





Do you feel like your doctor listens to you? Does he or she understand your needs?

When I went to see my internist a couple of weeks ago I felt like she was busy pushing her agenda on me, telling me I had to have tests I wasn't comfortable with getting. Although she has a specialty in older women, I don't feel like she is a good fit for me. I know what I want in a doctor. I believe in a combination of eastern and western medical practices and I want someone who will work with me. 


I believe a woman is an expert on her own body. When I have a problem I go and see about it. Several weeks ago I knew there was something wrong and I went to a specialist. I was right and I had it taken care of. I'll go into that another day. 

I don't feel that it is too much to ask to have a doctor who knows me personally, who is willing to sit and talk to me for more than a few minutes, who is willing to listen to my input, to answer my questions, and to give me alternatives.


I didn't feel that I was getting these things so now I am on the hunt for another doctor. Of course I have to find one who also accepts my insurance. All in all it is somewhat stressful. 

So how do you feel about your doctor? Do you have one that you love? Do you feel you are getting what you want?

Let's chat.
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20 comments:

  1. Thankfully, I do like my doctors. I do feel that they give me time to ask questions and they do listen to me. If I didn't, I would look for another one too! That is so important. I hope you find someone that will do that for you. I use Kaiser Permanente so all of their doctors are in a network. I don't always like the "red tape" you have to go through using them, but the doctors are good.

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    1. That's great that you like your doctors, Kelly. The red tape is never fun.

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  2. My doctor quit her practice to be able to travel to and from Haiti to be a doctor there. She still lived her. She was so careful choosing a replacement. She even had a party for us to meet her. I really liked the new doctor but then she left to go into another field of medicine. So the first partner and a physician assistant was left. They are ok but things aren't getting done when they should. It was way too long for them toschedule an appointment with the surgeon. I actually called them myselffinally. The nurse here drives both my usband and I crazy. I wear she has nearly killed me twice and my husband once. To get into a new doctor there is a 6 month wait. Then there is the insurance. Hard decisions for sure. But if I wasn't totally on board I would go somewhere else. It helps that my friend is the receptionist. Oh well,....what do you do. Are you okay?

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    1. It's nice that your doctor tried to do the right thing by choosing her replacement and giving you the opportunity to get to know her. My doctor is at the clinic at the University here. She is over medical students and that seems to take up too much of her time. Waiting six months is too long to get into a new doctor. My insurance company gave me a new doctor, but when I called them they said he wasn't taking new patients. Now I have to figure out what to do. I am okay, Debby and I will post about what happened later this week. Thanks for asking. I hope you are doing okay.

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  3. I'm sorry that your needs are not being met but you are such an inspiration for us all, you have taken charge and making the best decisions for you, health care in our part of Canada is sadly lacking, I don't have a doctor, I am on a waiting list, I have a nurse that see's me when I have a problem, I go to a womens clinic for yearly check ups but other than that I am on my own and thank goodness healthy,

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    1. Thank you, Laurie. I am sorry that you are in a part of Canada where the health care is lacking. It isn't such a problem when a person is healthy, but as health can change in a flash, it is really important to know you have someone you trust and can rely on.

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  4. I've never been really crazy about any of my doctors until I find a woman physician in a clinic that just treats women. I don't know if the connection is that we are both women or that we are close in age. She seems to trust that I "know" my body, and that's what it is important to me. My favorite thing about this office is that there is a big sign that says, "If you have to wait more than 15 minutes past your appointment time, please let us know". Amen! Finally a place that realizes our time is important, too!

    Jane xx

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    1. That is what I would like to find, Jane, and I want to find someone who respects alternative medicine. I have noticed that many doctors are starting to respect patients' time more. That is a good thing. No one should have to wait hours to see their doctor or months to get an appointment.

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  5. I'm looking for a new Dr myself and I so agree that's it's important to have one who listens to you and respects your thoughts and wishes. Good luck with finding one. I still don't have insurance so I need a Dr who will work with me also.

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    1. I'm sorry that you still don't have a doctor yet, Linda. That is why I have decided to wait to move to Georgia until I am eligible for medicare. For those of us who are older low income women, it is very difficult. I really hope you are able to find a doctor.

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  6. I love my doctor she has always listened and sent me to a specialist if I need it, she was a farmgirl too so she understands if I come in there is a reason. Good luck on your search. HUG B

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    1. I am so glad to hear that you have a doctor you love. It is so important. :)

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  7. Hi Laura... the hardest part of being transferred all the time is finding doctors. I usually go on line, make a list of female doctors, and read reviews of them. If someone says that she is a good listener, she's got the job. I believe that women are much better listeners so I don't even consider a male. I now have all my new doctors and I am very pleased with all of them.

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    1. It really is, Katie. I am going to look through my book from the insurance company and then research them like you said. I need to just set aside some time to do it. I wanted a woman too, but I think my doctor has too much on her shoulders with her medical students.

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  8. I wish doctors wouldn't be so resistant to alternative medicine. There are so many reasonable therapies out there and worth a try, rather than starting with more invasive options. I think it's getting harder to find a doctor in this age of extreme specialization. I also believe that many doctors dismiss what we feel or think as irrelevant, but like you said, we know our own bodies. I won't be treated as irrelevant, nor will I give up on what I think is going on in my body until I get answers.

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    1. I completely agree and I do research alternative treatments all of the time. Doctors push what the insurance and drug companies want for the most part. Drug companies don't make money off of alternative treatments. Good for you for standing up for your own health.

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  9. Laura, I just got a new G.P. doctor. She is very gentle but I had my other dr. for many years. My old dr. decided to specialize in internal medicine with a group of new drs. I went to the new once...will have to go a few more times before I feel comfortable. They all over book and never give you more than 5-7 minutes. I wish you much luck. Blessings, xoxo,Susie

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    1. Thanks, Susie. It is always stressful to change doctors. Hope yours works out well for you. :)

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  10. I love my Dr...in fact I will openly credit her attention to detail in saving both my Mom and I from possible life threatening diseases. She's wonderful.

    Jen

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    1. That's wonderful, Jen. I hope I can find someone like that, and I sure am glad that you are still around, my friend :)

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