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Monday, June 23, 2014

women speak: am I flashing or what?




Okay, truth is I am 63. EEEEK!!! How did that happen? I went through the dreaded menopause a long time ago and at that point I expected my hot flashes to be over. I was so over the whole thing and was looking forward to a life of cool days and nights. 

So why, at times, is this my best friend? 



Because even though it may not be beautiful, it is over my bed and there are just some times when I need it. When my face and sometimes whole body feel like I am running a fever. When I know I must be beet red.


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I am fortunate that I do not find myself drenched in sweat. Although, there was a time when I was. It was uncomfortable and embarrassing when it happened in public, so I learned to avoid as much as possible the things that triggered it. I don't consume alcohol, caffeine, or spicy foods. 

My hot flashes are definitely not as frequent as they once were so I am hoping that they will eventually go away completely. However, my mom who is almost 90 still has them. That seems a bit unfair. She and my sister both carry around little portable fans in their purses that they can whip out when needed. 

I have never been a believer in taking estrogen, although many women choose to. There are a lot of other things you can do instead of taking estrogen. I meditate, which is helpful. It calms down my mind and body and that seems to be a big help. Some other things to try are deep breathing, yoga, staying hydrated with lots of water, herbal supplements, and aerobic exercise. 

So where do you weigh in on the whole hot flash issue? Are you dreading it, in the middle of it, or past the entire thing. Maybe you were one of the lucky ones who never had a problem with it. 

Lets talk.


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18 comments:

  1. Almost over it. I was getting them really bad for awhile, including the "drench my clothes" sweats. Then I started doing the Couch to 5K program and it was interesting how quickly the hot flashes started to diminish. I still get occasional flashes, but as long as I run a mile a day, I rarely get them. Plus I lost 10 pounds in the process. And I drink a lot of water and plain iced tea every day. :-)

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    1. Good for you, Kim. They say exercise is a great way to reduce them along with the other health benefits. :)

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  2. my poor mother-in-law had them until her dying day in her 70s. i don't remember my mother having them, but i may not have been around to know since i moved so far from home when i was 20. i'm dreading them and hoping to be a lucky one. :)

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    1. I hope you are one of the lucky ones, too. :)

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  3. I'm 58, I ha a hard time at 54, stopped coffee, cola, sugar, if I eat too many sweets or rink caffeine they come back big time also if I get angry, lol, so I do what I can to avoid those, it is a miserable feeling, I have very few but every once in a while I will get one out of no where, oh the joys of being a woman, take care my friend, maybe one of the purse fans are the answer, I ha a hot flash the other day at the doctors office, I just knew I was re in the face an then I started to sweat, I was trying to discreetly fan myself with a brochure about some , I had just grabbed it without looking at it, you know what the brochure was? The freedom of life after menopause, oh joy!

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    1. Oh Laurie, I hate when they come out of nowhere. I love the story about the brochure. Freedom of Life after menopause. HMMMM!!!

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  4. I'm 64 and I still have them. I get clammy and just have to get under a fan. I was thinking I was crazy as I'm well past 'that' part of my life. Guess it's just how it's gonna be! Fans are my friend!

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    1. I hope they eventually dwindle away, Linda. They are miserable. Have you tried any natural remedies or changes in your diet?

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  5. I am 62 Laura! No wonder we connect on so many levels, my friend!
    The flashes have been over for me for awhile, however I "crave cool" always. Even in the Wintertime, my feet hang outside the covers. If I feel cold, I know that I am sick!
    As a BC survivor...No Estrogen For Me!
    Here's to fanning for freedom!
    withLove!

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    1. I love that "fanning for freedom". Maybe we should take it up as a cause :) I actually love hot weather now and can't tolerate the cold.

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  6. Well I'm 49 and haven't reached menopause yet, but I'm told that I'm in perimenopause. I do get hot flashes now and then and hate it. I am burning up one minute and then chilled the next. I'm told this is all hormonal right now. I guess I will have to see what awaits me in the next couple of years since that's when the "real stuff" is suppose to hit me. Kind of dreading it really! I'm a believer in taking whatever medications or other steps necessary to help me out through it though. I'm not one to be a "maryter". I'm only hurting myself and those around me by doing that. So, I will gladly ask for help if I need it.

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    1. I hope you will read up on estrogen before you rush into it, Kelly. Lots of controversy about it. However, I do believe in asking for help if you need it. Each woman must decide for herself what is best for her. :)

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  7. I'm 68 and just this morning I woke up with a ring of water around my neck. Before menopause years ago, I'd hardly ever break a sweat even outside in the heat. But now I do get really sweaty just doing a minimal of housework even with the a/c going full blast. I hate that.

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    1. I hate that sweating too, Cheryl although I don't seem to be sweating as much as I used to. I hope that yours will get better.

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  8. That's funny about the little fans they're carrying around! I started mine at 48 and I think I'm mostly through it at 57. However, with menopause came vulva vestibulitis (sp?) I don't know which is worse. But the latter does not ever go away. What this means is: I can no longer wear jeans or anything with a zipper, I cannot have sex and haven't for nearly 10 years. I can't take long car rides because of the sitting. I can no longer swim in a chlorinated pool. Which of course contributed to my divorce, because, though he was a doctor, he was not at all understanding and even really did not believe it when I went to doctors and one after another, they said this is what I had. This is a very stressful condition. If this is a women's forum, I can say that early on, back when I would still have a pelvic done, the female gyno told me my female genitals looked like thin onion skin. So if you can put all that together in your head, it means that I have very thin tissue that gets damaged very easily. If I did any of the things above, I would have a horrid yeast infection within a 48 hour period, and it would go on for several months. The only thing that gave me any relief was, get this, boric acid suppositories. So do I ever want to date or get married again? Hell no. It's all I can do to sit in a car for a drive. I refuse to have a pelvic done. The pain is so bad I would rather get cancer I guess, because there will never again be a pelvic for me. So that's my little menopause story.
    Brenda

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    1. I'm so glad you shared this with us, Brenda. Yes this is a women's forum and I want everyone to feel free to talk about anything that concerns them. I had never heard of your condition and had to Google it. I am so sorry that you are suffering with this. What a terrible thing. My hope for you is that there will be newer treatments so that you will not have to endure the pain of your condition. As a doctor, your ex husband should have understood the condition, but I have found that many doctors have little empathy. Thank you for sharing this with us. xo

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  9. Applauding this frank discussion of kindred spirits, Laura. It wasn't the hot flashes so much as feeling of being at the end of my rope. I took an OTC natural soy product for a long time ... the name escapes me. Yes, ten years your senior and I can’t remember a blasted thing! The saving grace is I really don’t give a hoot. BTW : I am loving your snippets at the end of each discussion .............food for thought!

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    1. Don't feel bad, Lynn. My memory has sunk to an all time low. I just roll my eyes at myself when I can't remember something that I know as well as my own name. Ummmm, what is my name again? :)

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