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Monday, May 19, 2014

ummmm.....mom?


A few days ago when I went to visit my mom I noticed a smiling woman sitting in the dining room.

Ummm...Mom?

Isn't that Doris? You know the one you told me wasn't going to make it through the night? The one we shed tears over? The one I wrote about here in my blog? You know the one about the message on a gravy boat?

"Yes, that's her, and what's this about a gravy boat?"

Ummmm...never mind.

I know Hartland Hills Retirement Apartments are nice mom, but they are a long way from heaven. 

"I know. She just wasn't ready to go. She didn't feel like it was her time. She still had things she wanted to do."

Apparently the reports of her impending death were greatly exaggerated.


I for one was glad to see that Doris is back. She speaks to me of our resilience, that we can't always control our destiny, but there is a strong mind body connection. I notice it so often in the faces of the elderly when I visit my mom. There are those you can tell have given up. They isolate themselves. Their eyes are cast down. They slip quietly away in the night.  Then there are those, like my mom and Doris who are still active participants in this life. They have a strong will to live. You can see it on their faces.

I wanted to go over today and take a photo of the four women at my mom's table, but my mom is out and about playing bridge today and tomorrow. At almost 90 years young she still drives herself, but keeps it in town. The last time I rode with her out on the interstate she scared me so bad I saw 100 new gray hairs just pop right out on my head.  


The mind body connection is one of the things I am really interested in, and I will be talking about it more in future posts. I believe it is an important part of a simple and serene life. 



 

23 comments:

  1. Oh Doris and your Mom are just like my Mom and I am sure we are going to be just like that the will to live and keep going is truly a gift. Hug B

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    1. I think we will be,too. I plan on being a tough old cookie :)

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  2. Isn't it just amazing how some older folk just keep on going and rally from sickness? A friend's 92 year old mum was on her deathbed in April and family rushed to her side from across the continent. She rallied and is doing well still. God wasn't ready to take her home yet. Your photos of the glads are beautiful. One of my favourite summer flowers that remind me of my mum. Have a wonderful week!

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    1. It is amazing, Pamela. can't wait for the glads to start blooming again :)

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  3. Sounds like my MIL, she lives at a retirement home, she will be 90 in Sept and many times she is not home...playing bridge with the women OLDER than her!

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    1. I think your MIL and my mom must have been twins separated at birth, Ann :)

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  4. Your Mom sounds like a corker...it's a old term, but I am sure she will appreciate it.

    I remember walking into the home to visit my MIL each time, and when there was a empty chair, it broke my heart. Those missing faces were not just missed by their families.

    Are your glads blooming already? Or are those shots from another year?

    Jen

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    1. My mom is definitely a corker, Jen. We always call her a spitfire. Those photos are from last year, Can't wait for them to start blooming again. :)

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  5. Your mum must be a fantastic woman.
    By the way those flowers are really beautiful.

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    1. Thank you, Thammie. My mom has great longevity genes and a strong will to keep going. :)

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  6. I loved this! Humor and wise words and a nice story. Well, it wouldn't have been quite as nice a story if Doris had passed, but I think drama runs rampant in a place like that. Good for your mom, and good for Doris. Hang in there, Doris! You must have something to teach us and it's just not your time.
    Brenda

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    1. I think Doris is just not quite ready to leave. I hope she proves them wrong for quite awhile longer.

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  7. I am happy for your mom and Doris. I am also happy for you to have the blessing to have your mom be so spry and full of life.
    The mind and body do go hand in hand. Blessings, Catherine

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    1. I am very fortunate to have my mom still with me. We talk on the phone several times a day.

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  8. Laura, That's good news about your mom's friend. Good for her . Good for your mom being tough too. Blessings, xoxo,Susie

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    1. Thanks, I am glad that they are both doing well.

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  9. So happy to hear your Mom is doing so well and enjoying life!! You've got good genes.

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    1. I do have good genes, Katie. My mom's parents both lived into their 90s and so did my paternal grandmother.

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  10. I do agree Laura. I think that there is a physiological connection between bitterness, resentment, fear, etc. that make us less able to fight off diseases. I'm not at all saying that everyone who has a terminal illness must be a bitter cranky person. Maybe it has to do with endorphins. Whatever it is, I am in awe of the Creator who designed our amazing bodies and made those intricate, complex connections.

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    1. It has definitely been shown that prayer helps in the healing of our bodies along with a positive outlook. Stress is never good. :)

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  11. That was somehow a very uplifting post to read. Thank you.

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