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Friday, May 23, 2014

sometimes my attitude stinks

There, I have just come right out and said it, and I'll say it again, 

sometimes my attitude stinks 

When I wake up each morning I try to start my day by feeling gratitude. I say thank you for something and how grateful I am to be alive for another day. But then, some days my attitude takes a huge detour. 


Why is that? I just feel a huge pout coming on. It's the why me syndrome. Why didn't I make any sales the day before? Why am I stuck living in one room? Why can't I live nearer my daughters and grandchildren? WHY? WHY? WHY?

Well, I think you get the point. We are all human and we all have our bad days, but I really want to do better and have fewer of those days. 

I need to work on it. I need an attitude adjustment, because I believe that when you change your attitude you change your life. Because I know that into each life a little rain will fall.


So here's my plan. 

1) It's my life and I get to choose how it goes. I may not be able to control the external things that are happening around me, but I can choose how I react to them.

2) No one knows more about me than I do. So no matter what anyone else thinks I should do I know what is best for me. After all I am an expert on myself.

3) I will remain calm in the face of adversity. This is a hard one for me at times, because I just want to shout at life and say "how dare you treat me like that". That's when I will go back to #1.

4) I will choose love. Not only love for others, but love for myself. I will choose to love my present moment, knowing that I have everything I need in this moment. I will focus on what I have instead of what I lack, because then I will always have enough.

5) I will remember that I am on a wonderful journey. It's the journey called life.




 

30 comments:

  1. Laura, Years ago I read a book about choices. Sorry I do not remember the name or author.It stated that there are only 2 choices in life. One you accept what has happened or two , you change it. By changing it..it means the way you can live with something. Example...if your husband throws his socks in the floor and you hate that, Tell him to pick them up that you won't do it for him, or put a basket where he can throw them , or let him wash his own socks....you get the idea.
    I think of you often and wonder how you are doing. Blessings, xoxo,Susie

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    1. Great input, Susie. I think you can be accepting of what has happened and then work to change it if you want. I am doing well. Thanks so much for thinking of me, my sweet friend. :)

      P.S. If it were me I would probably make him wash his own socks. My experience tells me he doesn't care if they are on the floor. LOL!!

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  2. I think everyone has those moments Laura. Have a great weekend filled with positive thoughts!

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  3. I love this . My post today was similar. I had to take a time out LOL . I have submerged myself into a lot of ME days. I have been off that list for awhile. XOXOX I love this post and reminds us ---Were all HUMAN sister. What your feeling is 100% Normal and with a cool list like that ...YOU GOT THIS

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    1. I'm heading straight over to read your post, Sherry :)

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  4. Oh I ask myself lots of those questions on my bad days too. I love your attitude. Hug B

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  5. We all are entitled to have those days. The true test is to see what you make of it! Have a great weekend.

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  6. Dear Laura, You made a connection when I read the line, "into each life a little rain will fall". That is a line from a very old song that my mother loved and she would say that line.
    It is only natural and no matter, we are all human. It is good to wake up and be grateful and thankful to the Lord for what we have and what we don't have, though some says our heart is heavier than others. These days are days we must be more attentive to ourselves.
    Blessings, Catherine

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    1. I'm glad I brought back a wonderful memory for you, Catherine.

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  7. Beautifully and wisely written. We all have those days. But luckily, sometimes the rain does fall and we enjoy it because it nurtures the flowers.
    Brenda

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    1. It does nurture the flowers, Brenda and makes them grow for us to enjoy.

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  8. Laura, I can only sympathise with the pain you feel as it comes to not be able to live your dear children. But I totally understand how you feel about those days when we are full of negativity and frustration. The fact that you want to change something about it is a sign that you are a good person to me.
    I wish you to have a nice weekend. And remember that you are a good person and try not to lose yourself no matter how bad things can go. I can tell you that it is not always easy but you are worth it.

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  9. We all have our wonky days. I think it is O.K. to feel sad but not to beat oneself up, and sad days are better kept to 24 hrs duration. Your new design is lovely and your posts meaningful as always. The new bedside table is adorable.

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    1. Thanks. I like your 24 hour duration thought. :)

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  10. Bless you Laura, l needed that today. Reading your post has made me feel less alone in this, often stormy world. I have been feeling very unwell again lately and struggeling with the anger and saddness concerning how my illness and bodily pain is stealing away my years, my life. Like you say, l need the right focus, the right "glasses" on when l view my situation. Hugs and blessings, Pam

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    1. Pam, I am so sorry to hear that you are dealing with so much from your illness. I want you to know that I am always here for you. xo Laura

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  11. Oh Laura, I can relate to this post. I am the same way. I try to keep upbeat and I am happy for the most part and try to make peace with the troublesome parts, and leave things in God's hands, but for plumbing issues and a leaky roof and a stubborn HOA whose is responsible for the roof, I need help from humans! And that is not always a pleasant thing. lol. I will re-read this for encouragement! xo

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  12. I was just talking to someone yesterday about how hard it is to get people to come and fix things these days. I hope you get it all worked out, Barbara.

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  13. Laura, thank you for sharing. I am with you on wanting to live near my grandchildren. I told my husband one day when I was upset that I was moving to Nashville with or without him. That I would rent a room from someone and he could come visit once a month if he wanted to. Now, is that an attitude or what! He was so hurt and I felt badly. It's hard to be in the period of transitions. You shared exactly what I needed to hear. The photo of the bend in the road is absolutely beautiful! Wow!

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    1. It really is hard to be away form our grandchildren. I haven't seen mine since Christmas. I had to postpone my planned Easter visit because of my mom's illness. I will hopefully see them soon.

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  14. I'm so sorry you are having some sadness, but this was such a beautiful post, an inspiration for certain,

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  15. I always love a post that makes me think and I love your plan. I am a bit the opposite, as I lay in bed at night and try to find the moments in the day that made me happy, fulfilled and blessed. I feel so grateful then. Funny, sometimes I lie in bed in the morning with a sort of dark cloud over my head...bad things seem to come to me instead of "light". But once I get up and moving around, I start to feel some positivity and my mood changes drastically. Not sure why this happens. maybe the routine of my days, the loss of "purpose" without my children...it's strange.

    Thank you for stopping by today. Our trip is so much fun and I'm also loving catching up on the blog tonight! :)

    XO,
    Jane

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  16. Thanks so much for sharing that, Jane. It's interesting how our empty nests affect us. We have to learn a whole new way of living or maybe a memory of how we lived before we had children. Have a wonderful vacation.

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