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Thursday, December 5, 2013

transformation on a thursday....finding your true calling

Do you know what your true calling is? Do you know what makes your heart sing?


As a counselor, I was often called upon to do career counseling. I remember a young woman coming to me and saying that she knew what she wanted to do, open her own bakery, but that she didn't know how to go about it, and that her family was telling her she needed to find a job that had a guaranteed income. She wanted to know if I could help her determine if she had the aptitude to be a baker. So, I administered a test that tells what your job aptitude is. When the test results came back, they said "owning a bakery shop". I frankly was quite shocked. I had never had results be so specific. The universe was really talking to her, but she was still resistant. It was as if she wanted me to tell her not to follow her dream, not to do what her heart was singing for her to do. She left my office dejected that day and didn't come back. I often wonder what happened to her. I felt like I had somehow failed her, but realized that she needed to follow her own bliss. I couldn't make her decision for her.


So how do we know which road to follow. 

We most often follow the road that supports us financially, because we live in a material world and we all know that we have to eat, have a roof over our heads.....etc. But, what if we are short changing ourselves. What if we listen to what our hearts are telling us. What if we pay attention to what gives us bliss.


When I was in graduate school, I took the same test that I later administered to that young woman. It told me that I was suited to be in a helping profession such as counseling. I felt relief that I was headed in the right direction, but then I faced the reality of the profession I had chosen. I didn't like the constraints of a nine to five job in an office, or the boundaries that were set up by the professional boards I worked under. I knew I had made a mistake and didn't know what to do about it, so I quit. I was floundering. I became a real estate broker and made even more money than I did as a counselor, but I still knew I was not following my heart, and when the bottom fell out of the real estate market I started selling vintage and antiques because I love them and it is a joy for me to deal in them. 

BUT!!! (there is always a but, isn't there) I knew there was more that my heart was telling me to do and I knew I needed to believe more in my intuition.


That's when I decided to pull together my counseling along with my desire to help others find inspiration in their own lives. It has led to changes in my blog. What started out as a blog to promote my vintage and antiques business has turned into so much more for me. Do I hope that someday it will bring me an income that will help support me? You bet, I do, because I have to eat, but I love doing this so much I will continue to do it for free if I have to. It is what makes my heart sing and if even one person finds inspiration somewhere along the line, while reading my blog, then I am happy and feel fulfilled.

So what is it that makes your heart sing? Are you short changing yourself somehow? I would love to hear what it is, because maybe if you write it down here, it will give you the impetus to make a start on your own dream. 

Whew!!! This was a long post for me. 



 

19 comments:

  1. This is so right-on for many of us. All my life I've wanted to be a writer, but real life (parental guidance, finances, etc.) led me to become a secretary. I'm now 60, and even though I've never earned a living writing, the writer in me always finds a way to come out - the last three years through my blog. I'm not earning money at it but it satisfies my need to write, and that's worth a lot. Thanks for this great post.
    Mary

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  2. Congratulations on following your dream. We are never too old. I am turning 63 this month and I feel like I am just starting out. xo Laura

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  3. I'm not sure that I've ever taken a test like that. That sounds like a good one! I had no idea that you were once a real estate broker. My mom did that for many years! It was stressful though. She used to ask me if I wanted to get into real estate and I immediately said 'NO"! She brought her work home with her every night and was on the phone constantly. She was gone on the weekends a lot too. It just seemed that it dominated her life. I know that, for me, I need more balance than that. I guess that means I'm not a type A personality. LOL! I enjoy reaidng your blog for the inspiration it gives. I think you make a good counselor.

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    1. Thank you, Kelly. I'm not a type A personality either. :)

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  4. Wow - I'm blown away by this post AND by Mary's response, because her answer is exactly mine. :-) I've been struggling with some career issues lately and my daughter is going thru exactly what you went thru. I'm sending her a link to this post so she can read it. Thanks for the timely message. xo

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    1. I am so glad that you found this helpful, Kim. Sharing is one of the best parts of blogging.

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  5. Laura, Years ago, a fellow named Henry Lee Summer sang ,a song of trading our dreams for security. Many of us have....then you go on to make the most of that life. Gotta roll with the punches some times. Do you believe there are always two choices in life...one is to accept and the other is to change the things you do not like.? Oh that Summer fellow ened up a druggie kind of guy with scrapes with the law....read it in the Indy star. What a waste of talent. I think we all need a plan "B". Blessings dear Laura. xoxo,Susie

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    1. We can make changes many times. That is what is so wonderful about life. It never has to be stagnant.:)

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  6. There is nothing I ever wanted to but be a nurse, and yes the test I took said the same thing. Maybe as life moves along I would love to do historical research all day long. I know I can not make a living at it though. I think my work on the 150th Anniversary of a Civil War event in my hometown has made this come to light more. So after the commemoration is complete in March I plan on working more with the Genealogical society. Like you my blog reflects that somewhat. My favorite posts are talking about how a object evokes a memory, hence A Sentimental Life!

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    1. Ann, you are so fortunate that you knew what your dream was and followed it at an early age, and now you are able to find new directions.

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  7. I always wanted to be a Mom! I didn't have my first child until I was 29 but it was the best day of my life. Now I am a Mom to two grown daughters and I am so proud of them. I've since found a new bliss....being a Grandma! it really is the best thing in my life. Work was always just a way to support myself, never a work of love.

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    1. Being a mom and grandmother are wonderful aspirations, Linda. I know thay both make me happy :)

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  8. Laura, I had such a bizarre childhood I had no idea who I was or even that I had a choice in the direction of my life. I allowed myself to be forced into a profession I was totally unsuited for. Sometimes inner strength and resilence can work against you, as I stuck it out as I had learned to do with everything else in my life. Now I'm much more protective of myself but it has been a lesson lately learned. My choices have been much more reflective of my true nature since this realisation.

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    1. How wonderful that you have been able to realize what is important to you, Susan. I hope that you are now finding happiness in your choices.

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  9. What a great post! I was just talking with my realtor today about finding myself. My son will be starting college next year and it will be my time to do what I want for the right reasons and I can't put my finger on it. My realtor gave me a book about real estate to read. She's not the first person to want me to join the field, but I just don't know. I had wanted to be a nurse,but now with the health issues I have it would be a struggle. I would like to create a business that is successful enough that I can in return help animals, single moms, abused women, senior citizens...all of them. Right now I sell items on ebay that I find at thrift stores and donate in all kinds of creative ways. :) I hope after we move to NC it will come to me. :)

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    1. Keep looking inside your heart, Marie. What others think is best for you comes form their perspective, not yours. It sounds like you know what you love, and just need a way to express it. I hope you will keep looking for that way.

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  11. What a blessing this was to me today. Thank you so much for lightening the mood in my heart.

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