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Thursday, October 10, 2013

transformation on a thursday....it's none of my business

As I travel down the road....the blogging road.....I often wonder and worry. 


What should I write about? Why am I not getting as many comments as I was? How come my blog isn't growing as fast as that person's? Why is that person who was following me and I thought had become a friend not reading my blog anymore? Do they not like me anymore?

WHY?? WHAT??? HOW?????............AAAAGH!!!!!!!!

and then I stop and breathe, because I realize 


What other people think of me is truly not about me, it is about them. What is most important is how I feel about me. Worrying about what other people think about me is completely unproductive. It won't change their mind. 

Growing older brings new perspectives about one's self. Most people are not sitting around thinking about what you are doing. I like me, and after all this blog is written from my perspective. It is about things I love and if anyone person reads and enjoys it then I am thrilled.

So thanks for being here. I hope you like yourself and that if you write a blog it is about you, because blogging is not a competitive sport. 



 

29 comments:

  1. Laura, I am in that boat right now! I am. I admit it! I get at a loss for something to post about, my pictures are taken with a point and shoot, I can't "compete" with the "popular" bloggers. So...I don't post anything or go weeks, months without posting. It's not a competitive sport, but oh does it feel that way! I can post about something and a few days later someone will post about the same thing, no kidding, I will get 1 maybe 2 nice comments and about 50 people that "looked" and the other blogger will get 16 comments. I would be lying if I said that doesn't bother me....it shouldn't, but it does! Childish I know, but I have even ended my posts saying if you stopped Please just say Hi and I don't even get that. I know I don't post often enough to keep people interested, but Life goes on here in my Home and I don't have businesses after me to blog about their product to inspire me to post more. Quite Honestly, I get tired of clicking on a favorite bloggers site and seeing them post about something so they can get paid for it. Not to mention having all these ads pop up that I have to X out of just to be able to read their posts. Okay, enough! Sorry, but I just wanted to say I know what you mean. I've even thought of posting about just what you have......Glad you were confident enough to do it!

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  2. I know what you mean. Sometimes it feels like a popularity contest and it's really not. I just write for me and if somebody is nice enough to stop by, read, and make a comment - well , it makes my day.

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  3. Not understanding much about blogs, I have found them to be very interesting with beautiful pictures and great ideas. Please do not stop posting pictures and feelings, I enjoy reading them. I love decorating and gardening and get so many great ideas from everyone.

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  4. I couldn't agree more with you ! I think the ones that feel that way are the ones that rely on a lot of traffic in order to make money for their blog. My favorite blogs to read are ones that speak from the heart and don't live in big mansions where they're so "braggy". I also get bored with the ones that are featured everywhere all the time as if they are a celebrity. I thought the blogging community was more personal than that. That's what attracted me to it in the first place. I enjoy reading your blog because it inspires the philosophical side of me. I love psychology and positive affirmations. Yours provides that. I think every blog should have a "niche" and not be so widespread to appease the masses. When you offer a "niche", people know what they can count on from you when they go visit you. Instead of, "what will it be today?" LOL!

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  5. Oh I hear you! At first I was so upset because it took forever to get 200 followers etc. and sometimes no one reads the blog. But I am like you it is not a competition and I do it because I want to. I don't want to do some of the things people do to get followers. Yes, if I have someone follow and comment frequently and they quit i wonder why? Probably just life...as you know I have my absent periods because of the work I am doing on the Civil War Riot in my hometown. I know I appreciate you always reading and commenting on my blog, so for those who do I go out of my way to read and comment on their blog. I have made some wonderful friends!

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  6. Oh Laura, That's a very good attitude to have towards blogging. I like it! Wonderful words my friend, wonderful words.
    I always find it difficult to write, wondering IF it will interest others. I need to stop thinking like that and just write for me.

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  7. Laura I had to stop worrying about what others thought and just enjoy the blogging. I do it for me and if others enjoy it then I am lucky. It has been freeing to say the least. My blog has always been a reflection of 'me' and as I change, so does my blog. Enjoy the journey!

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  8. Laura, I just read your blog for the first time today and it is lovely. I read a lot of blogs. I can tell when authors are stretching for a subject. I thought about writing a blog myself, but searching for subjects everyday would be daunting. I like your type of blog..personal, interesting and intuitive. It does help that you have been in the mental health field and you can share a lot of your insights. Finding your blog was just the serendipity I needed for the day! Thank you!

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  9. Here is one person who loves reading your blog. I have periods when sitting at the computer is difficult due to my health and writing comments also. But l always pop int to read your posts :-). I started my blog to help myself focus onwhat l love and the small details that make life beautiful. I agree with you, what other people think of me is irrelevant and how fast my blog grows or doesn't likewise. Blessings and hugs from Pam in Norway

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  10. Blog for you! Blog for the love of writing and the hope that you touch even one person. I don't get a lot of comments. Since switching my blog names I've never regained my followers. However, I love blogging. Every once in a while, I do meet someone who gets me..... like I met you!

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  11. A blog is a wonderful expression of yourself. If people come along for the journey, I'm thrilled, but I keep in mind that we all need unique things during the myriad seasons of life. Keep plugging away, Laura. Writing is therapeutic, and you never know who you may help in the process.

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  12. I love your blog. ONE OF MY FAVES sister !!! I think sometimes some of us read and move onto read the next sometimes commenting sometimes not. I assure you NO refection on your amazing blog. I usually comment though > I love all your feedback . HUGS and have a blessed day. LOVED that pic of the road with the mail box and then the beach one WHEW hew you know this Rusty pearl LOVES a good beach scape. HUGS

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  13. Laura, I just started reading your blog regularly and I love it! I was just getting ready to turn off the computer for day (I've been on computer overload) and I thought I'm stopping by Laura's for some inspiration and a good self-care thought for the day. Love this post. Write and share for the sheer joy of it. Write what's on your mind and in your heart. Your images today are peaceful. I'm getting out today to enjoy some sunshine. I'm a regular her now!

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  14. ***note to self** proofread before hitting enter*** :)

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  15. Laura, I think I have finally come to the point where I don't care what other people think of me or my blog. I'm just happy for the ones that do come and comment on my pictures. Because that is what I love to do....take pictures. I'm glad that you have gotten to this point too!

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  16. I write my blog for me. If someone reads it that is great. If they leave a comment I smile.
    The blogging road photo is so pretty.

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  17. Very wise. I've learned over almost 6 years of blogging that I can't control that stuff. People come and go. I have done the same thing with some blogs that I initially loved and eventually stopped reading. Tastes change and there are simply so many blogs out there that it's impossible to keep up with them all like we could about 4 years ago. I write my blog for me (and for my readers.) I gave up on the competitive thing, the worrying, because there is simply no way to think about that and write your blog from a place of peace and joy.

    xo
    Claudia

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  18. Laura,
    First, I would like to tell you that I have enjoyed reading your blog for quite some time now, but sometimes I am bad about not taking the time to leave a comment. That is something that I need to remedy.

    It is easy to let myself slip into that sort of competitive feeling, and then vague disappointment, when it comes to my blog, but since I am not a very competitive person, that feeling never lasts long. My problem is that time gets away from me and I just don't post as often as I should., and by the time I take time to post about a subject, it is past the time (season) when it would have been current.

    Have you noticed how much in our current culture has become extremely competitive? So many shows on TV are one sort of competition or another. It seems like everything has become a competition of some sort. It all gets to be too much sometimes.
    Anyway, I did want to leave a comment today, because I wanted you to know that I do read your posts and enjoy them.

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  19. Laura, you are so wise. I don’t have a blog. I’ve read all your comments on today’s post. Sweet, smart ladies. I wish I could follow them all. I too am lax too at leaving comments. Usually it’s because I totally agree with the writers view on the subject matter. The bloggers I follow, like you, have such excellent words skills there is little to add other than a “Well done” or Amen. Occasionally someone will ask a question. That always helps me get a response started. So once again you have thrilled me and made my day a tad bit nicer. Carry on . . . .

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  20. I sometimes feel like that about my blog, but usually because I don't have a lot of time to devote to it. I enjoy visiting yours, so don't stop!

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  21. I feel your pain....I've practically had the same number of followers for over a year now! :/
    It seems that my comments come in spurts, too.....so odd. I know that it's hard for me to keep up with everyone's blogs because I still have one at home, and this year carpool is taking at least two hours out of my day.

    I like your attitude, and I need to remember that blogging is supposed to be about fun, and it's not a job! ;P

    xo,
    RJ

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  22. Laura, I wrote a whole dissertation reply to your post and it disappeared! So, I'll just squeeze it all in one sentence about why I believe people aren't commenting as much as they used too. Millions of blogs out there as opposed to a few years ago, face book becoming so popular as well as so much other social media. :) xo I love reading your blog posts.

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  23. Laura I really liked this post. As you know, I am only blogging for over a year and a half. I have found myself ask so many of these questions. You are so right it isn't about me, it is about them. I try to open doors and some remain shut for whatever reason. It is hard because I am not that kind of person. I open my door to people that are kind. I feel that this should be a community of support and we should all want to see people succeed in life. Naïve, maybe???

    Cynthia

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  24. I think like that sometimes but honestly, people get wrapped up in their own world and it's easy to forget to say hello to friends. I am one of the worst at "socializing" on line and in person. You are always sweet to comment on my blog and I thank you. Somebody (a blogger friend) mentioned that people don't comment on blog posts much anymore - maybe it's what is happening to most bloggers. That's ok...we create for ourselves anyway - xo

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  25. Laura, I love what you do here! I have been in my little world of escrow not going through on the sale of our home, bummer and serious hayfever. Anyway you have a lot of followers and think you must have been talking about me.. but when God puts something on my heart I will give it a try and I don't always follow through, due to discouragement.. Hugs and love from California...

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  26. Hi Laura, we all love you, and your blog...I think sometimes people are just busy, and overwhelmed. Comments rise and fall, we can't write posts that will resonate with everyone all of the time...I've noticed that I am a lot happier now that I post only 3 times a week. There is always something to talk about, it's just a matter of do I share it or not,lol.

    Jen

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  27. Blogging is a very weird way to come into people's life and to let us come into ours. Sometimes we write something that is of interest to others, sometimes not, sometimes they are just too busy with their own life. But I'd say there are two kinds of bloggers; those who blog for fun and to meet new friends who share their interests and those who blog for money - these are the ones who needs lots of readers - we just need few friendly readers!

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  28. Laura, I hate to think of you feeling that way! But I think we all do sometimes. I develop my own recipes and sometimes post one that I think is positively genius (if I do say so myself) and it gets very little traffic or comments. Then I'll come across a blog like the one I saw the other day that's written by a young woman who makes other people's recipes, very simple ones that call for ingredients like biscuits from a tube, canned frosting and stuff like that; and she had tons of comments! Oh well! Let's just keep doing what we do for as long as we enjoy it ourselves!

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  29. I just found your blog and I am so glad I did - great post!! And beautiful pictures! I can't wait to read more :-)

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