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Thursday, April 11, 2013

loving ourselves in the now

Do you sometimes look back at your past self with longing. 



I remember how I looked as a young mother. My body was thin and full of energy. 

I remember times when I could jump and run with ease. Times when I could chase down running toddlers.



I remember when I could always find my car keys, where I parked my car in the grocery store lot, what I ate for lunch yesterday.



Today I am making peace with the past and loving the person I am now. I am embracing the parts that look back at me in the mirror. The parts that sag, the hair that is always curly, the scars on my knees, the wrinkles where there used to be smooth skin.  Today I am acknowledging that I am wonderful just as I am. 



I am realizing that I don't have to wait for validation from others. I don't have to wait to lose unwanted pounds to love myself. I can love myself in this very moment and that is what I choose to do. 

I hope you are choosing to love yourself in this moment, too.




 

26 comments:

  1. I AM choosing to love myself - but I just can't love the extra pounds or the wrinkles - sorry - no can do. LOL -
    You're beautiful - then - and NOW...........
    Hugs,
    Suzan

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  2. I can't love the extra pounds but my life is in a great place regardless. I love the me now who takes risks and loves a good challenge. You are equally beautiful past and present.

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  3. What’s not to love, Laura . . . if anything, I see the same woman ~ only better! (That’s not validation, that’s fact.)

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  4. what a wonderful inspiration you are, and beautiful, then and now!

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  5. Absolutely! and good for you. Besides, there is no reasonable standard even among young people in this country. it's always something so elusive, leaving young people discouraged and with eating disorders and depression. And aging isn't even accepted, except for reasonable people like us. I look at my wrinkles and know that I've earned every single one of them! :-)

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  6. I don't love the outside so much...the extra pounds, the sagging, wrinkly, crepey skin...but I love who I am on the inside. A very nice, caring and honest person. Sometimes I think I'm too nice, some people try to walk over me...but I've gotten to where I don't allow that anymore, so I like myself better for it!

    You were beautiful back then and still beautiful today!

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  7. Amen, Laura. I think the hardest person to love is oneself. We know all of our shortcomings and faults. It is easy to overlook them in someone else but not in ourselves. Great post- xo Diana

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  8. I struggle with that also-I think a lot of us do so thanks for the reminder and the encouragement.

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  9. Hello Laura, you could not have said it any better. I truly believe in growing old gracefully and to tell you the truth, I would not go back for anything. I feel so much more at home in my body and with my spirit than I ever did when I was younger. When I was young, I was always trying to keep up with everything and everyone around me. Trying to be the best wife, the best mother, trying to always look my best and be fashionable at all cost (remember those platform heels, and even those pointed toed spike heels). I had to be at the top of my game, always, in order to feel good about myself. Even to the point of being upset when I had a bad hair day :(
    Now I'm comfortable being myself, and myself is pretty darn, okay :)
    Great post!
    Your blogging sister, Connie :)

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  10. Thank you Laura for reminding me of this! I do love me as I am most of the time, but occasionally I get down about my weight and that 'old' lady in the mirror. Still I am lucky and I know it! Hugs, Linda

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  11. Laura, Time moves so fast and it is amazing where our younger days went. Accepting who we are now is a comfort that all of us hopefully attain so we can live in the now and enjoy every minute of our lives. Thank you for sharing. Blessings

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  12. The older I get the more I realize that I am fine just the way I am. Great post today.

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  13. Oh yes! I have been in your shoes and sometimes those negative thoughts still creep in. I've had struggles with my health and anxiety and if anything positive has come out of it, it is that I come out stronger on the other end. I learn how to deal with stress and those that stress me out! I, too, have learned to not let others opinion of me give me validation. Someone once told me that you can't MAKE people think a certain way about you. Just be the best person you can be, live a good ethical life, and the rest will fall in place. We're ALL going to get older and our bodies will change accordingly. Kids grow up, move out, and life goes on. Nothing in life stays the same forever, so we have to adjust along with it. Living in the past does not give us the present that we want or the future we deserve. (This post brought out the philosophical side of me.) LOL!

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  14. Oh, and I just had to share ONE more thing! Don't fret over your curly hair. I have natural curly hair too. The older I get, the more thankful I am for it. Sure it can be unruly somedays. But hey......curly hair has volume. And volume makes you look younger and healthier. Ever wonder why the old ladies get their hair "quaffed" at the hair salon??? We've got it everyday! LOL!

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  15. I think you look amazing! I appreciate the advice on loving our now selves.
    Sometimes it's not so easy, but I'm beginning to live in the moment, not the morrow.
    Hugs,
    Patti

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  16. Laura... love your post. I don't miss the "old" me as much as I miss the girls when they were little. Sometimes I wish for one more day with them when they were tots. PS You're just as cute now as you were then!!! Have a wonderful weekend.

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  17. You are so beautiful, my friend and I hope you are feeling better each day. I love my life and I'm happy with myself. I get tired more easily but I still enjoy many of the same things I've always loved! Enjoy your week...sending you hugs tonight!

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  18. I think you look great! There's something comforting to me about getting older.
    I've nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award!
    You can check it out here:
    www.makeitrane.com
    Blessings,
    Ashley Rane Sparks

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  19. This post really hit home with me. Wrinkles and fat bother me a bit, but what I really, really miss are the pain free knees that I had when I was younger. They were knees that I never even gave a thought to back then. That has taught me to appreciate the parts of me that still work well now.

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  20. It's a shame we really don't know how beautiful we are when we are young. You look wonderful. Maybe when we are ninety we will be amazed at ourselves now. Fun seeing the young you!

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  21. What a lovely post Laura, words of wisdom. I am determined to not looking back but forward, l am so grateful for lessons learnt and wisdom aquired. Ok, l was very thin with smooth skin and nothing sagging, but l always worried about how l looked. Now l find l can wear what l want and don't find myself worrying about what other people think. If they think l look or behave silly, well that's their problem. I think l am kinder and more tolerant. My chronic illness has taught me a lot. It forced me to slow down and appeechiate what l have, live simpler. Blessings Pam xx

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  22. Oops lots of bad spelling in my comment...must be the age ;-)

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  23. You are gorgeous inside and out, then and now, younger and older, ect.... As I have gained wisdom, I realize that my momma was right when she said "It's not how you look on the outside but what's inside that counts". I wish I could turn back time just to tell my teenaged, young adult, know it all, keeping up with the jones' self that is the god given truth. Aging is a privilege that not everyone gets to partake in and I'm trying to just celebrate every day and every age now in the moment. True there are days when I wonder why my momma is staring back at me when I look in the mirror...lol!
    Donna

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  24. Lovely post. Three of my pupils recently lost their mom... So I'm beginning to think that ageing (something I'm not comfortable with usually) is actually a gift of nature that not everyone receives and that we should therefore cherrish. And if it's any comfort, I never remember where I parked my car!

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  25. Love it Laura! Thank you for this post! It seems the media and the world today do not promote self loving, we need more of it. Instead of self loathing of what we aren't, we need to celebrate who we are :). Beautiful post! ♥ Dawn

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