Have you forgotten to love the "me" in your life?
Are you remembering to really love you?
As an older woman, I have found this one of the most difficult things to do. I was raised in an atmosphere of "woman as caretaker".
But I seem to have not gotten the message that I also need to "caretake" myself. I don't think that is an actual word, but I like it, and I think I will use it whenever I am forgetting the "me".
I was recently gobsmacked by someone that I have been trying to help. When I said that I needed to focus time on my needs, I was told that I was just being selfish and not thinking about anyone else but myself. I took a step back as if I had been physically slapped. How dare this person say this to me. I felt devastated and somehow "guilty", but then after I thought about it, I realized that this person is only "thinking" of their "me", they are not "loving" their "me". By not loving their "me" they are not able to connect with the rest of the world and without that connection there can only be a sense of being alone.
I also believe by focusing on trying to make others happy while not "caretaking" myself, that there was a disconnect. They never realized that I was focused on their happiness. Instead I seemed to produce the opposite of what I was trying to accomplish.
So I am learning to "love" the "me" and through that love I feel that I am able to feel the inter-connecting more.
How do you "caretake" yourself? Are you loving your "me"? Do you feel the inter-connection with the rest of the world?